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How much pocket money does your 12 year old get?

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Dancergirl · 26/06/2013 20:46

Dd1 is 12 and coming to the end of Year 7. She gets £5/month pocket money, same as her sisters. I know it's probably not much but we planned to review it at some stage plus we sometimes give her a bit extra here and there.

She doesn't spend a lot of money - she likes to buy a few bits from Claires, Lush etc all the usual places. But she likes the cookies they sell at school and drinks from the vending machine. Usually she asks dh for a bit of money most mornings. So we think it's sensible to now increase her money but she has to buy everything non-essential out of it including snacks at school. But how much would be a reasonable amount? She says some of her friends get £20/month! Is that really the going rate??

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Dancergirl · 01/07/2013 14:35

Once a month? Blimey, you're patient! I think I would have lost it before then! What's her room like the rest of the month?

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Ragwort · 01/07/2013 14:38

My 12 year old gets £10 a month by standing order into his Bank Account - since we started earlier this year he hasn't taken any out Grin.

We pay his phone contract (£8 a month) direct.

He doesn't seem to spend much really, gets the odd pound now and again from grandparents and just uses whatever washing stuff is in the bathroom. Gets Lynx etc for Christmas or birthdays and that seems to last all year as I usually hide it because of the vile smell.

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ItsDecisionTime · 01/07/2013 22:09

My DD 12 has £50/month paid into her current account and she has to pay for everything out of that. By everything I mean toiletries, cinema, days out with friends, Xmas & birthday presents, phone top-up. In the summer, she has been babysitting our neighbours toddler (in our house, while I'm there) and she gets £5 an hour for that. She has a Barclays current account which comes with a debit card, handy when she buys stuff online. She never asks for any money as she knows it would be futile. She has £500 in her savings account which she's saved up.

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2kidsintow · 01/07/2013 22:15

DD 12 has a lloydstsb account, that she opened with her birthday money. She gets £20 a month pocket money. She then pays for all days out and her mobile top up.

She is expected to make her own packed lunch, change her bedding, put away her laundry and occasionally do a few extra jobs.

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PandaG · 01/07/2013 22:21

DS gets £25 a month. He has to pay for half of any birthday presents, half of any scout trips over and above normal subs, any snacks or hot dinners at school (packed lunch stuff always available), and trips to cinema etc., as well as any purchases he wants - PC games, new headphones etc. He also has to contribute towards his phone contract, though we pay towards that.

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MrsShrek3 · 01/07/2013 23:33

ds1 has a Lloyds TSB account with a card and I pay £30 a month into it. He needs to sort out his own stationary, school bag, mp3 music and extra bits of stuff he wants, random hair products and the like. He saves loads of it and has recently bought a console game, now researching new ipod/mp3s as he doesn't want to wait until his birthday. It's definitely taught him budgeting and given him more control over feeling a bit independent, it's his money and he doesn't feel he has to keep asking us for it. Will be doing exactly the same with ds2 when he is 11.
I pay for phone (contract £8 a month) and clothes, essential toiletries (I don't consider "random hair gel" essential Wink so he picks his own)

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betterwhenthesunshines · 02/07/2013 15:26

Enough so that if he would like to buy something that I don't consider essential, he can save for it. It used to be £1.50 a week when he was 8, but even a Beano now is £2. Then it progressed to having to save if he wanted any Lego...

Now it's £5 a week which gets paid as £22 a month directly into his bank account. I buy presents for friend's parties, essential toiletries, basic clothes and phone top-ups (But we have only spent £20 on his phone over tha last year) but he is expected to buy presents for family at Christmas and birthdays, any fancy toiletries, equipment for hobbies ( lots of making things, batteries etc) He is currently saving for a metal die-casting set - it will take him 6 weeks which I reckon is achievable.

If we go to the fair etc we might give them some money, but if they want to spend more, they have to pay from their own.

No money here for school achievement - that should be an intrinsic reward in itself and based on effort rather than attainment IMO. Also none for general chores ( bedding, helping with washing, setting table, cooking etc when asked) that is part of being a family. I have given them money for extra specific jobs eg cleaning patio windows, gardening, car washing.

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l1zzee · 03/07/2013 23:41

agree - no money for school achievement - agree on the instrinsic reward itself.... no money for helping around the house for the same reason - we help each other.... etc.
I buy magazines and books - plus things they need..... the holiday money can be saved for throughout the year and so far, our tooth fairy has been generous...they buy the little extra things that they would like out of their own money - their treats etc

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