My DTwins are coming up to 3 and a half. They have recently started at an independent preschool (feeds into a primary) 2 days a week.
I was asked to come in for a meeting with the preschool teacher to discuss how thry had settled in. When I arrived, it was with the teacher, the EYFS lead, the SENCO and the headmaster.... They had a clipboard with notes they had made while observing my boys.
Phrases like "unable to meet their needs" and "perhaps find an alternative setting" were being bandied about. I have agreed to pick them up at lunchtime (currently on maternity leave so can do so) as I felt that really the issue came down to the fact that they still seem to desperately need a nap, which they can't have at preschool.
My boys do seem young for their age in terms of their behaviour and independence - they are still quite prone to tantrums/meltdowns when they are either hungry or tired, potty training has not been at all easy and they have no desire to be independent with regards to dressing/shoes. I was hoping that starting preschooland seeing their peers do these things would be good for them, but didn't think more than 2 days a week would be good for them because they struggle so much without a nap.
What would "an alternative setting" be for children that are preschool age but seem a little behind in some areas? I wasn't keen on the local nurseries - my eldest was very unhappy until she started preschool and I think my boys wouldn't benefit from being put with younger children.
How do you find an appropriate setting if your child seems a little behind in some areas?
It's is possible there is some SEN at play here. Eldest has ADD/ASD (although would have been referred to as "high functioning" before thatbecame an impolite thing tosay). The boys are bright in some ways a.g. they can read without needing to sound out words most of the time, they can do some basic maths. But ask them to put their own trousers on and they may just say it's too difficult and sit down and get tearful. It's that sort of thing that I think the preschool are finding hard to handle, they expect some level of independence.
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TinyTeachr · 16/03/2024 21:32
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shockeditellyou · 26/03/2024 07:14
Is this a private nursery attached to a private school? They are saying they don’t want your children because they are too much work, and risk making their lives hard as they have to accommodate children who haven’t turned up at 3 reading and writing.
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