My 3 year old daughter cries every-time either I, or her dad collect her from pre-school (never been bothered at being dropped off). She will see us waiting for her outside and then freezes to the spot, often walking backwards and crying. The teacher will have to guide her towards us and coax her outside. This has been going on since she started four months ago so is not a phase like we had hoped. It is becoming utterly mortifying. She won't speak to us and reverts to pretending to be a baby when the teacher hands her over to us, only saying 'da' or grunting. She goes in two days per week.
She is a very bright and happy child and we are extremely close. She loves school which I am thankful for but oh my!.... this is getting very embarrassing and not to mention hurtful. I am starting to wonder if the school are worried about our relationship or if I am some kind of monster she is scared to go home with.
Today, we had her first ever nativity play. She was Mary. It was magnificent. She was a superstar, so confidant dancing and singing all the songs. Me and her Dad were both crying watching and were so very proud. At the end the teacher said the children could go and sit with their parents... all the other children ran excitedly to theirs. My heart sank to see my daughter running away from us. She was scooped up by the head and brought to us literally screaming and crying. Everyone seemed so surprised to see her going from so happy to so sad at seeing us. It was very uncomfortable for all of us.
I feel at the end of my tether with it now. I don't know how to react to it anymore. Anyone been through this? I don't want to draw more attention to it with her by asking too many questions as I feel the more we 'dwell' on it the more she acts up to it.
Also worth mentioning that she does the same when I come home from work when she is being looked after by grandparents. She cries or completely ignores me. My mum (grandma) always makes a bit hoo-ha about it saying 'go and speak to your mummy, it isn't nice to ignore mummy' etc even though I've asked her not to as I think it puts my daughter on the spot even more and makes it an even bigger issue. But to be honest i have no idea what the 'right' thing to do is with all this.
Has anyone had similar?
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My child cries every-time i pick her UP from pre-school..starting to feel mortified
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TwoBabas · 21/12/2023 13:03
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