Dd is 2 yrs 9 mths and has been attending preschool two mornings a week since the week after her 2 nd birthday.
She loved it before the summer holidays and was doing brilliantly, would come home full of news about the games she had been playing. She has always been really imaginative, playing tea parties etc from well before her 1st birthday. However, she only enjoyed playing with the older children and of course they all left to start reception.
This term she has hated it, kept saying she wanted to go to big school too and the manager told me that she had problems with her socialisation because she wasn't playing with the other children. By this stage she was one of the oldest - there are a couple of three year old girls but as far as I can see 'academically' they aren't yet at same stage as dd. Dd referred to the other children as ' all babies'.
Language is good, she uses words such as 'maybe', unfortunately excited etc in context and sentences are adult length and structure - 12 words not uncommon. She counts beyond 20, can do more and less than, tries to write a lot of letters, writes imaginary shopping lists, plays word games eg tells us if tractor began with f it would be a factor, is starting to read v simple books.
If she hadn't fitted in so well with all the games last year I'd be thinking possible asd, but she does socialise well at playgroup, church etc - just only with children who are at least four. She also loves young babies but ignores most of the children her own age.
Should I be concerned? Is there anything I can do to help her?
Is it correct, as the manager told me, that they can't work on any other areas with her until they have 'solved' this one? As I can't see it getting solved until she has children at the same stage of development to play with!
She isn't attending at the moment - she was getting increasingly upset and withdrawn. Whether or not her glue ear has contributed I don't know - despite being a small setting it was often noisy. The glue ear doesn't seem to hold her back at playgroup.
Sorry so long, really difficult to know what to do!
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Betty5313 · 07/11/2012 11:27
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