Sorry, hope this post does not offend anyone, but I am now 18 weeks with my third child. i am one of three and always thought that I would like to have three children. I am now 40 and my other two are 6 and 3. The younger one will start school whilst I am on mat leave. So, I am basically horrified that in my forties I have set the clock back 4 years. We were so nearly out of the bit and then I had a miscarriage last year and this crazy woman took over and demanded a third child. Fact is on very moderate salaries we cannot afford a third child. I find now that when we are in the park and my dd asks for an ice-cream I feel panicky. Yes, the two of you can have an ice-cream today, but tbh (and I don't obvs say this to the girls) when the new one comes along forget it. Forget the odd meal out, forget a coffee in town, forget new clothes, shoes (and I'm talking about the kids), any sort of staycation whatsoever (ok possibly wild camping). I don't know what I was thinking to think it was a good idea to rock the financial boat so violently. We have no support nearby, my father is currently in hospital for cancer (my parents live 7 hours drive away and he's in hospital 4 hours drive from where I live). My mil lives 4 hours drive away and is looking after her very elderly mother. I have had two c-sections - second time I nearly lost my bladder. So, I will be home alone with two kids, a baby and a c-section scar. Oh and stat mat pay. I have not been happy at work since I had my first _I changed to part time and I my job changed completely. Only recently (after two years) have I got a project to work on that is interesting and keeping me occupied for the whole day. I really worry that going back a third time ( and I will have to) will have the same effect - no work and I've started thinking hte very real possibility of redundancy. We can't live on my Dh's salary. But childcare will eat most of mine. Just wanted to get that all out there. Have thought about terminating but my dh told me I would regret it and by the time I seriously looked into the option it was at a point where it involved 'rods in the cervix'. I don't know what to do to view this pregnancy in a positive light and my unhappiness is affecting my (previously great) relationship with my existing two kids who I love dearly. Any thoughts?
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