embarrassing Q: do they give you an enema during labour?

[asparagusaddict]

just been talking to my mum about labour and one of the things she mentioned is that they give you an enema to avoid any embarrassing poop incidents with all that pushing...

is this true though, or is it something they used to do but don't anymore?

i just wondered as i keep reading things about where women have had number 2's pop out during labour...

i love my husband to bits and we are both totally comfortable around each other with toilet things etc but i still feel it would traumatise me beyond belief if i disgraced myself like that while delivering his baby!

if they don't give you one, can you request one? or can you buy some to keep in your house to use when you first go into labour?

and, if you did use an enema, how can you be sure you won't accidently birth the baby while on the toilet?

i know this is a totally stupid question and i probably won't care when it gets to the day but i've been reading about how you need to be as relaxed as you can be during labour i want to minimise as much stress and anxiety as possible!!!

[sophiejoandbump]

I think they used to always do it, but I think you CAN have one if you want to, but they dnt make you have it anymore.

x

[shonaspurtle]

I did, and high as a kite on gas and air made a joke to dh about it re: him not telling anyone. The midwife gave me a very stern look. It was obviously not to be spoken of and she was super efficient at whipping anything away quick smart.

If it hadn't been for my addled brain I don't think dh would have been any the wiser.

[madwomanintheattic]

lol, another german cs victim patient here. they also give you an enema afterwards before you are allowed back onto solid rations and out of bed. tis not like the uk where they discharge you within 24 hours lol... there are many many many sitzbaths to be undertaken prior to release... although the chamomile douches are strangely soothing.

with the two vbacs i definitely pooed in one of them. i know this because the consultant (still shuddering to think of it) stuck his finger up my back passage to help everything on its way. i had never ever had a single pile before that point, and i did not thank him. (he was a bit desperate as he was trying everything he could think of to save me having another section... ds1 was back to back and he needed to get (ulp) both hands in to try an internal rotation) at the time i couldn't have given a damn. it's unlikely he remembers my face or name tbh, and i imagine the parade of fanjos blurs into one across the years...

[Bunsouttheoven]

When I arrived at hospital dp was sent to get my bag from the car, one midwife said she was going off duty. By the time dp came back from the car & new midwife came in I had fully stripped off & was on a mat in the middle of the room, head down arse & fanjo in the air (pointed at the door). The midwife said 'oh, hello then, that's not a greeting I get everyday'. DP said it was a bit of a shock since he had only popped out for a minute when I had been fully dressed
& only able to move at a snails pace.

My point is you will not care about pooing, nakedness, blood, fluid, nothing except getting the baby out. I could have been in the middle of a supermarket & it would not have made a jot of difference, birth is all encompassing & totally primal.

[kylesmybaby]

not sure about not noticing it - god i was fully aware by the smell. also had a trainee sitting right ''there'' - poor man didn't even move.

[MustHaveaVeryShortMemory]

showofhands - I am rofl at the thought of you marching through the flowerbeds...

asparagusaddict As everyone has said, no they don't give you an enema. Not even sure that if they did it would guarantee no num 2's. Anyhow it doesn't happen to everyone. You probably wouldn't notice if you did and nor would he. You can keep a long top on, the midwives are discreet. I was covered with a sheet until the last possible minute.

It is NOT a 'disgrace' if it does happen though. It's just the baby pushing the contents of your intestines down as it descends. Please don't let this be something that worries you because it honestly wont be an issue.

[ILikeToMoveItMoveIt]

Oh, have just thought of something else.

At the pushing stage if you feel like you need to poo, that is GOOD. It means the baby is well on its way. Don't be scared to push because you think you are going to poo yourself, because if there was poo to come out it would have probably come out before then.

[asparagusaddict]

i feel strangely reassured

showofhands, i sprayed cake over the computer screen at the thought of the pope and the cast of friends watching!

the slightly upset stomach before labour sounds like a good idea, i'll keep my fingers crossed for that - i was originally born without any sphincters so with a bit of luck that should be an advantage to letting it all out beforehand

[DorotheaPlenticlew]

Fantastic thread.

I don't think I did a poo, but I did throw up just before "proper" full-on labor kicked in. And I kept thinking between contractions that I needed a poo, but nothing came out when I went to the toilet -- was just the pressure from the baby.

Ended up with an EMCS at long last and cannot recall any discussion of enemas etc; I hadn't eaten for about 24 hours though and had been sick, so doubt there was much left.

[abroadandmisunderstood]

I had to have a shave AND an enema before my elective C Section. Mind you, I'm in Germany and they really are rather fascinated with "movements"!!!! In fact, the pain relief after the birth was also given anally (makes mental note to give birth in uk next time).

[ShowOfHands]

PS I didn't poo.

PPS Her at no 8 with the bulldog chewing a wasp face was horrified at my behaviour amongst the lupins and for that I am eternally thankful.

PPPS I returned to being utterly repressed and was forced move house shortly after the birth.

[displayuntilbestbefore]

Also worth remembering that often before labour starts, you might have a couple of days of going to the loo a bit more than normal and for some women they have bit of a stomach upset at the start of labour - possibly nature's way of clearing out a bit ahead of the birth!

[sweetkitty]

I have pooed twice out of three times. The second time was a HB and DP actually cleaned it up for me, nice of him to tell me afterwards but in his words "well your my missus and you were in too much pain to do it yourself, it's only a bit of poo and then you had a baby hanging out your fanjo which is the most amazing thing ever"

As everyone says it's impossible not to do it as you use the same muscles to push the baby out as you poo in fact the baby feels like a giant poo, the MWs usually just whip it away with all the other stuff and never mention it.

Honestly do not worry about it.

[MumNWLondon]

I had several loose bowel movements in early labour each time.... when I was easily able to go to toilet myself. After that I wasn't worried about pooing as I was sure there was nothing left.

And as others say the midwifes would get rid of it very quickly.....

[DorotheaPlenticlew]

PMSL at going naked through the lupins watched by crowds, ShowOfHands

[ShowOfHands]

I'm so repressed. Honestly, it's like I belong to another century. I can't say the word poo, I can barely type it. The idea of me doing it during labour worried me so much it kept me awake. I couldn't bear the idea of it. I had this half-baked idea that I should give birth in a wood in the middle of nowhere to avoid the shame of anybody seeing anything at all. Everybody told me I wouldn't care on the day and I ignored them because they don't know me and they are liars.

When it came to it, I wouldn't have cared if the pope, his band of merry men, the cast of Friends and a choir of angels was watching me. I had to transfer to hospital during a planned homebirth and the midwives were hanging onto my ankles, pleading with me to 'at least put some knickers on' as I trudged, naked, bleeding and contracting to the waiting ambulance, through the neighbour's lupins in the middle of the day in front of a sizeable audience. I did not care. There was only labour, nothing else, the world contracted down to that fact. I can't tell you how much you won't care about anything, you'll just want that baby out.

[Fruitbatlings]

I had absolutely no idea. I could smell something but assumed DH had farted
I discovered, whilst sharing my birth story mutual friends, that I pooed loads - thanks for that bit of info there DH. Mortified wasn't the word!

[MamaVoo]

What everyone else said. I have no idea whether I did or not and was sqeezing DH's hand so tightly that he didn't have a chance to get down the business end.

Your embarrassment threshold will be much higher after you've had the world and his wife staring up your fanjo. I had a group of sightseers with a torch at one point .

[Beanigan]

I was concerned about this also but honestly during labour you really really won't care. I'm almost sure I pooed but neither my husband or myself would have EVER known for sure - the midwives are fantastic and whip whatever away so no-one notices.

I mentioned it to my husband afterwards and he said "I don't know if you did and so what if you did" - he didn't care in the slightest.

It really will be the last thing on your mind - you're emotions will be overcome once your little one is born so don't worry about it.

[displayuntilbestbefore]

asparagus - if you attend any classes at your hospital about what to expect in labour, you will be reassured about this issue and also, if it's like the class my hospital did, your dh will go off with the dads-to-be to be told about what labour is like so they will be aware of possible things that happen and are probably advised at that point that it's more than their life's worth to mention anything if it did happen

[slightlystressed]

I spent about half hour on the toilet while in labour with both DSs and literally everything came out, sometimes you're body natuarlly evacuates its bowells to give more room for the baby to come out. But dont worry if you dont like other posters have said you wont notice and noone will care if one pops out while in labour.

[MrsTittleMouse]

My Mum asked me if you still have a shave and an enema - it used to be routine, but you definitely don't have either nowadays.

My poor old husband had already been around me the day when I was preping for a colonoscopy. Which is grim, trust me. So it wasn't really an issue for him to be around me when I was labouring and delivering, even though there was a lot of blood and gore. And he still thinks that I'm pretty hot! Mind you, we both had a strict arrangement that he would always stay at the head end.

[Ziggurat]

1. As ILikeToMoveIt says - your body tends to dispel everything unnecessary in the early (i.e. manageable) stages of labour, when you'd easily be able to get to the loo.

I only found this out a week or so before in antenatal classes. And yes, I then really did have to both poo and be sick a lot - by the time I was in proper labour I was done downstairs, although kept being sick throughout my (short) labour.

1. In any case, you will not even be aware that you're doing it, if you do it! This is one thing that really concerns so many women pre-labour, but you honestly Will Not Care if it happens, and as Display says, the midwives are just so used to dealing with it, that it's all in a day's work for them, and you'll be none the wiser.

I asked my DH if I did and he swears I didn't, and given how often I needed the loo before we went into the delivery suite, I believe him!

[rubyslippers]

you don't get enemas

if you poo, and about 99% of women do, then as everyone says you won't notice, you won't care and nor will the MWs or your husband

[craftynclothy]

No, it's something they used to do. I got this told many many times by my mum (there's a whole story about how she couldn't have one with me )

Tbh I didn't poo either time but I wouldn't have noticed anyway. Actually I didn't notice any of the gunk, the midwives cleared it away so quick.