How old is too old?

[SheShellsSeaSells]

I'm already a mum to 3 kids. My question is, how old would you say is too old to have another baby? I won't tell you how old I am just yet as I dont want to sway any answers!
Thanks

[Toocleverformyowngood]

Mentally I feel too young at 26 to have a baby but physically too old

[titsbumfannythelot]

I think the sleepless nights after baby is born are worse than pregnancy and labour.

My dd2 was born when I was almost 37. I am most definitely finished. Or someone is getting sued.

[DianaMemorialJam]

22 and 23

if you're able to have them and feel ready then who cares? Go for it!

It is weird to think there is people who have babies at my mums age (47) not in an offensive way, I just couldn't imagine her having a baby now 😂

[AmyB1986]

I'm 30 and personally my cut off would be 35 as I don't want to running after a 10 year old when I'm approaching 50. However my sil just had a baby a few days ago and she's 37. She has two children aged 16 and 10 already so a really big age gap between hers.

I think it's all comes down to how you feel in yourself xx

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

I had my first at 18 and sailed through pregnancy going out, etc etc I'm now 36 and spent most of this pregnancy in bed, believe me it gets worse the older you get.

[soupmaker]

It's such a personal thing but I had DC1 at 37 and DC2 the week before I was 43. I'm now 46 and knackered from toddler tantrums, lack of sleep and have no real down time. No way would I have another even though I would have had a much larger family if I'd met DH earlier.

[AndNoneForGretchenWieners]

I'd quite like another one (38 this year) but DH is 60, we both have fertility problems and most people on here seemed to think it was a bit late to start trying again which I suppose they are right. I can't imagine the sleepless nights, but I am so broody!

[SheShellsSeaSells]

Well I'm 35. I feel more ready to have and manage a pregnancy/newborn than I ever did with the other 3.
I have very prem babies though which is a worry. I also worry about the increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities, as I'm older...
thanks so much for all your replies!

[Ruleryellow]

I had my first at 33 and pregnant with second, will be 35 when baby is born. My cut off is 42 I think.

[user1487671808]

I had my last at 41 and as soon as I had her I knew she'd be my last. It's harder physically, easier in other ways but just too tough on my body to do it again a year or two later.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

I want to say 34/35 as I am 36 and fucking knackered. I couldn't put myself through this past 40 fuck that I need a life at some point.

[toomuchtimereadingthreads2016]

Completely up to you OP depending on all factors PP have mentioned :)

Had my first at 21 (DH 29) second due soon at 24 (DH 32), in our current situation this is the last baby we can comfortably afford though I am struggling with the thought that this might be our last! Can't imagine dealing with a big age gap because of the different demands from a teen and a baby, but my mum had her first at 19 and last (me) at 40 so anything is possible! ;)

[Essexmum69]

I conceived naturally (unplanned) at 47, unfortunately miscarried. Although I would have continued with the pregnancy, I was terrified at the thought of having an 18 year old at age 65!

[TheTartOfAsgard]

I had dd at 22 and ds at 23. Thought I was done.

Currently 27+2 with ds2 at age 35 (will be 36 when I have him) and already planning the next!

[DramaAlpaca]

My personal cut off was 35. I had my last at 33.

But it's a very personal & individual decision.

[gandalf456]

I'm 46 and.definitely feel.too old.for another. I had.my youngest at 38

[Poorlybabysickday]

I'm 38 and desperately trying to decide whether to try for one more or whether to leave it as I feel old . I already have 3

[mistermagpie]

I'm 36 and DC#2 is due in 4 weeks. I had DS at 35. All being well I think I would like a 3rd but if it hasn't happened by the time I'm 40 then I would stop there.

It's such a personal choice though and depends on your personality, lifestyle, relationship etc. I only got together with DH when I was 31, so having children in my 20s wasn't an option. I'm also physically a hell of a lot fitter in my mid 30s than I was in my mid 20s so feel able to cope with young children now.

[Heathcliff27]

I had mine at 22, 30 and 36. The last pregnancy was filled with health problems which ended with a hysterectomy after giving birth. I'm 44 now and don't think I would have the energy to run about after a little one (obviously can't happen now anyway).

I never ever had a cut off age as such but am so glad I had all mine before 40.

[lightgreenglass]

DH cut off is 42 as he wouldn't want to be older than 60 they turn 18.

So by default mine is 33 - that's 5-6 years away and we're currently on number 3.

[Oysterbabe]

40 is my personal cut off point.

[MamaHanji]

I had my first at 19. So while I'd say that 45 would be what I think is the age that is not yet 'too old' to have babies, I also wouldn't judge anyone over that age unless you're like 60 and then I would think that is too old! My main basis would be on the age of your current children. I wouldn't want a gap of more than 10 years between my eldest and my youngest. I'm 22 and I have a friend that is 45 with 2 children the same ages as mine. I started early, she started late. I will say that physically, I cope with the demands of motherhood better. Though she is much more financially secure. Pros to being young and being older.

If you want another child and your body still can (or adopt), then go for it!

[WafflingVersatile]

37

[cuddlesandchips]

My cut off is 35 - it's not the having a baby at 40 that is a concern it's hitting 60 and having late teenagers/early twenties

[MyBreadIsEggy]

Very much an individual choice.
I had my first at 21 (DH 26), second at 22 (DH 27).
30 is the cut off for me. No more babies after 30.