37..too old?

[Neatfreak38]

I had 2 children when I was young..17 & nearly 19. I had no family support and shut my friends out..it was very hard at times.

I have had 2 long term serious relationships since having them, both of them I didn't want children with. I guess I've never thought about it as that was my decision then.

Fast forward to now..I've met someone amazing. He wants children..I've always said I'd never deny someone without a child but early days. I can see him being a great dad..he's great in every way. BUT I am 37..I feel times ticking..I feel I wished I'd met him years ago but obviously that's irrelevant!

So..would you..start again after all this time?!

[LumelaMme]

My DM had me at 37. She was a totally fantastic mother, and I, of course, am bloody perfect

[Sparlklesilverglitter]

Not too old. I've just had my first baby at 39

[catx1606]

Not too old. I'm 38 and 24 weeks pregnant with my first.

[ConvincingLiar]

Not too old, but it's up to you whether you want to start all over again. I don't know how long I'd want to wait before trusting a new man to be a good and reliable partner and father.

[Ohyesiam]

I had my first at 38, my second at 40. It's been great.
Go for it x

[WinterRose92]

I really don't think that 37 is too old. I think if you are with the right guy and you both want it, then go for it!

[motherinferior]

I tested positive for DD1 on my 37th birthday. (And I'd only been with her father for five months...)

[griffinsss]

37 really isn't too old at all (up until 40 is quite normal I believe?).

You might not be quite as fertile as you once were (it begins to decline after 30, once again, I think), so you might want to get that checked out before making any promises.

My step mum had her first at 42 and second at 43. I always forget that they're my siblings because they're so much younger than me, but apart from that they've been a great addition to the family and both my step mum and my dad wouldn't have had it any other way (my dad was 56 though and a grandfather of 6, so he was old!).

[HeadDreamer]

But I do live in an area that you would be out of place if you have a newborn in your 20s. That might change your perception of what is normal definitely.

[Scrumptiousbears]

I had my first at 39 and second at 41.

[HeadDreamer]

Definitely not too old if both of you are committed. I had mine at 36 and 39. Plenty of older mums around that I don't feel old at DC school.

[Umblubblub]

Not at all. I'm almost 40 and 17 weeks pregnant with #2. I feel so much better in this pregnancy than i did with my first, when I was 34.

[cathaka15]

I got pregnant at 37 with my 4 th.
It's been tiring but loving every minute of it.

[MadameJosephine]

Definitely not too old. I was 41 and my DS was 16 when his little sister was born.

[jimijack]

First at 33, second a 43.
Fine, absolutely fine.

[Nikki2ol6]

Hi, my mum did. But I was not planned. My brother and sister are 17 and 15 years older than me. Then my mum had a coil fitted and had it taken out for a rest for 3 months and she got drunk with my dad one night on a weekend away and didn't use protection. That's when I came along lol. She said it was hard because she had no baby stuff and had to start all over again and when I was born she was tired and the night feeds were a killer for her.
When she started taking me to toddler groups and nursery people thought she was my grandmother and I hated it because everyone else's mum was young. But I love her dearly

[MoonHare]

Not too old!
Had my first at 35, second at 37 and third at 39.
Totally normal among the mum's at school.

[Womble75]

I had my first at 37 and am now 20 weeks with DC2 at 41. So not too late I didn't meet my DH until I was 35 and he was the first partner I had i actually wanted to have children with.

[LightTripper]

I had my first at 38 and found it great (now pg again at 41). I didn't have anything else to compare it too, but it is definitely doable so I wouldn't rule anything out if you feel you would like to try!

The only downside is being older when/if you have grandkids: my Mum is now 80 because she also had us quite late. Luckily she is really healthy and fit but obviously it is a matter of luck of the draw at that age! But I guess if you have more kids you might get two bites at the Grandma cherry!

[Desmondo2016]

I got married at 18 and had 3 children in quick succession . At 30 my marriage ended. At 33 I met my amazing now DH who had no children and a lifetime of fertility issues. He had made his peace with never having kids and is an amazing step dad. No-one could have been more adamant than me that my baby days were over. Hmmm. We decided to ''let nature decide' and I'm now sat here heavily pregnant at nearly 40. Super excited!

[sianihedgehog]

I had my first at 37. But, I guess the question is really whether you want to spend the next 20 years raising kids, or whether you want to do something different with your life next. Did you enjoy being a mum last time? Have you got ambitions or plans that another child would prevent you from fulfilling?

[Wombletor]

Hi there

Exactly like you I had 2 children in my teens, 17 and 19, and it was very tough. Isolated from friends and family, struggling financially. Fast forward 18 years, and the DH and I decided to start again, and we had another when I was 37! It was the best thing I ever did, experiencing motherhood at the other end of the spectrum, older, wiser and no financial worries. We had several MCs but luckily had another last year when I was 42. No regrets. We feel young and the littlies keep us young. Good luck :-)

[SausageSoda]

I was pregnant with DD1 when I was 37

[ImSoVeryTired]

I had my first baby at 36 (now 37) and hope to have another. I don't feel particularly old. Time will tell if I'm able to or not. I certainly wouldn't have been ready for a child in my 20's.

[Northernlurker]

You're not too old. Your circumstances have meant you may have two separate times of raising children and if that feels right, it is right.