Can I just ask, all those who are v against facebook announcements of pregnancies, particularly in view of being sensitive of others, is it just in relation to actual announcements on facebook, or does the same apply to any mention of the pregnancy at all? And is facebook worse than in general?
This isnt meant to be antagonistic, I can definitely see circumstances where it would be tough to see announcements etc. but given that people put updates about their day to day lives on facebook should pregnant ladies not mention the pregnancy at all, will any mention be seen as an announcement?
An example - We didnt announce second pregnancy on facebook at any point cant remember if I was even on facebook with first-, one reason was close friends had just had a miscarriage and we just didnt want to make a big noise about it, but I do remember much further down the line putting something up about building cot, or some sort of baby prep and suddenly had lots of messages saying 'oh wow I didn't know you were pregnant' etc. These were from the sorts of people I have on facebook who are not close friends enough to have e-mailed specifically but people I had maybe been close to in the past but now are pretty much just facebook contacts (I dont have a massive number of facebook friends, but a good few fall into this category). Would this have been as hurtful/upsetting?
We obviously told these particular close friends who had had a miscarriage as well as others in person, we tried not to make a big deal of the pregnancy but it does inevitably come up in conversation from time to time. Im just confused as to what is now considered the sensitive and acceptable way to deal with your pregnancy in general and in particular on social media.
My example is probably not the best as as these were close friends and we knew their circumstances, we were able to talk to them about it and about how they felt. The issue for others does occasionally seem to be, you don't know others circumstances so you shouldn't announce for this reason so my example doesn't fit that scenario.
(I know this sounds like Im getting at people who dont like the facebook announcements, Im genuinely not, I just am not sure how you are meant to approach it. ) This is our third pregnancy, there will inevitably be less of a big deal about it anyway, and we wont be announcing it but I would like to know what people think regarding general pregnancy related posts, are they all a no no?
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A question for people who are against facebook announcements
Forgettingmyownname · 15/08/2014 12:29
Thankyou so much all of you! The where do you draw the line thing is def an interesting one,the types of status I actually hate most are the ones which are pointedly about other of people's Facebook friends-ie 'Don't you just hate people who only ever post about their babies/husband/love life/night life/garden' etc. I can't understand why you would get so irate about people using Facebook for a different reason to you,there are definitely things I wouldn't post but I wouldn't berate others for doing so,other people have different lives,some people post constantly about their pets I don't know if I've ever mentioned our hamster?It doesn't make them wrong or me right.
One of the weirdest reactions in my second pregnancy was from a close relative(who is constantly complaining about people posting about getting engaged/married/having babies as she does not have those things but desperately wants them) being really rather cross that I asked her not to post anything about me being pregnant out of respect to friends who had had miscarriages-her reaction was,but they know you're pregnant how will me posting about it be bad? It was truly beyond me how someone could be so riled up themselves about these things but have no concern for others when they wanted to share news-and not even their news!
This issue and a few other extremely sensitive topics aside I think in general people are very quick to criticise what people put on their Facebook and very intolerant of what others post-THIS IS NOT A CONCLUSION DRAWN FROM ANY OF THE POSTERS ABOVE! 
you all seem lovely!
Ive had two mc but don't mind the announcements or pregnancy updates, it affects different people differently. I do thjnk it's nice to be considerate but when I was in that situation I didn't expect people to stop having babies or be happy they were pregnant just because I wasn't! I posted a pregnancy announcement after I told my nearest and dearest and would be a bit 
if people thought it was offensive to do so because they had difficulties, perhaps that's because I didn't let it affect me personally when others did during the time I was having troubles though.
Only put safe arrival on fb- when suffering infertility I hated seeing pregnancy announcements just would sometimes get to me when I thought I was fine trigger tears etc.
Also know someone who had quite a public pregnancy on fb who sadly had a stillbirth - the last message was about being in labour I can't imagine having to go through that so publicly 
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