5 weeks & this pregnancy is already kicking my ass....:(

[Annarose2014]

So it's 5+ weeks, which means that realistically I only conceived about 3+ weeks ago. But I am F@&%d!

It started with the worst head cold i've ever had, which flattened me for a week. Trying to shag throughout (cos we were still TTC or so we thought) was quite a challenge - I had actually whisper the alluring words "I'd better go on the bottom so I don't drip snot on you...."

During the same time my boobs were constantly agony. Oh yes, then the weeing started - every hour now, and getting up during the night too.

And I wasn't even positive yet! In fact I'd had a negative test!

Then last night I had a vomiting/diarrehea EXPLOSION. Went on all night, am very peaky today and can only take mouthfulls of the blandest food.

Also have horrendous lower back pain shooting through my pelvis. I wantt o go to sleep for a month. Did the washing up this morning and actually had to have a sit down afterwards!


How in the holy Hell can it be this bad when I only conceived 3 weeks ago??! My positive result was VERY positive so obvs my Hcg is quite high. But now I'm quite scared, tbh.

How can i cope with this? I have a horrendously hard job with 12 hr shifts but that isn't even my main worry. How am i going to cope with this level of horrendousness for the next two months? It seems like forever.

I honestly didn't expect my symptoms to be this strong (I kinda expected none as I'm such a sturdy mare who never gets sick), & I'm totally unprepared.

Have looooovely OH, but not being able to tell work/family is horrendous too. Had to tell my Dad today I'd had food poisoning as he was startled at my greyness/listlesness. How many times can I use that though?!

Oh I'm so overwhelmed. Tearful and wondering what the hell I've gotten myself into!

[MrsCuppa]

Hi daheedsgirl I have also had the sharp pain like I'm being poked from the inside. Ouch :(

[daheedsgirl]

Thanks ithoughtofitfirst :-)
I've had a busy day on my own in work today and coped better than I thought. It's only when I stop I feel tired! Hope everyone else is feeling ok and enjoying the sunshine.

[ithoughtofitfirst]

ohthegoats ooooh good idea about the pool! i might give that a go.

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Hi daheedsgirl sorry you're feeling rubbish. It's a shock isn't it?! Plenty of positive ladies on here saying it gets better and you just muddle through somehow. I'm nearly 9 weeks and the last two days i have felt semi human again... i even played football today!

[daheedsgirl]

Hi do you mind if I join in?

I'm 6 weeks +5 and am up and down. I worry when I feel ok and then feel sorry for myself when I feel rubbish. I have had a few nights eating a late meal then bringing it back up again! If I eat earlier I'm up at 3 am starving hungry! Is it normal to feel starving all the time? At this rate I'm going to be the size of a house in a few weeks! I also had my first bout of sickness this morning! Has anyone else experienced a sharp pain below their belly button? This is our first baby and we have been trying on and off for 2 years. Xx

[ohthegoats]

have come up with a 'kick pregnancy's ass' plan

We/I have also done this. I can't go out much in the evenings because I'm so shattered, but we're going to join a swank-arse gym for 3 months. It's got all lovely things in it, like yoga and an ace pool (for me), and the torture things in it (for him). Going to go every evening, just to feel like we're 'doing' something. Even if I only float in a pool.

[Bumpsadaisie]

First three months are AWFUL. It does get better. You just have to trudge through it.

Also means when baby is here it feels easy compared to pregnancy!

[Annarose2014]

I honestly don't think I'll be able to. Not for another 7 wks. I see my Mum & Dad several times a week, and my Mum is especially eagle eyed.

But hey ho, if I have to tell them earlier I won't beat myself up about it. It shouldn't be so stressful I wear myself down trying to keep a secret. If I can get to 9 weeks before telling them I'll be thrilled.

[MrsCuppa]

Haha me too Annarose. At this rate I won't be able to keep it a secret for 12w!

[Annarose2014]

Oh the bloat! I'm afraid to take off my hoodie in case people see my stomach and think I've really let myself go!

[MrsCuppa]

Annarose I am also 5 weeks and feeling VERY overwhelmed. Also have a flakey nose! I am already very bloated and get a pain like I'm being poked from the inside every now and then - when I google that I feel sick with worry :( So hard that this is a secret and our first baby!

[Annarose2014]

Yes have started to realise same. Had a really deep sleep last night and woke up feeling not too bad. So I decided to take advantage of it and had breakfast in town with OH. Am starting to feel knackered now, but I feel good that i was able to have a nice morning. At least thats something.

[ithoughtofitfirst]

In all honesty i think the only thing that is that bad is feeling out of control of how you feel. Some days you feel great, others you feel awful but always at the least convenient times and you don't know when it's going to end.

I spent a lot of last night and this morning giving myself a bit of a talking to and, with some help from my husband, have come up with a 'kick pregnancy's ass' plan. It basically just consists of going to the gym and lists of things to do as the mood starts to dip.. all stuff i learned from CBT. I've got too long left to be giving up just yet!

[Annarose2014]

Mssleepyhead, i just bookmarked your 13 week post. It's comforting to know I'm not wierd or doing it wrong and I suspect I'll be rereading it lots in the endless weeks to come.

And the dry skin thing!!!! I was wondering why my nose was getting flaky for absolutely bugger all reason when it's never done that in thirty-far too many years! Oh great, now I have to disguise flaky skin as well! Oh for gods sake!

[Me23]

I had to tell work early. I'm 8 weeks and told them yesterday as I had to get signed off I was so exhausted I work for the Nhs long 13.5 hour shifts usually without a break. Work can't be flexible i.e I can't leave early or have fewer patients as not enough staff so I had no choice.
You need to look after yourself and put yourself first right now.

[georgesdino]

The busier you keep yourself then the less you will think of it, and the faster it will go.

[mssleepyhead]

you're not alone anna! see this thoroughly depressing 13 week post i wrote... the good news is that this morning at 16 weeks i wrote this one
i'm not going to say the first few weeks don't suck because they do. but stay focused on the fact that it should get better and give in to the little things that cheer you up right now.
and congratulations : )

[Annarose2014]

Oh god, labour!

OH is all "dont think about it" but I said that if he was going to be ripped apart in November he'd be bloody thinking about it too!

Am definately going to tell work. Sadly I expect zero sympathy/exemptions. But at least if I have to leave early some day because I'm on the verge of death it won't look like I'm just skiving. There's nowt they can say about it if I've told them I'm pregnant.

[Boogles91]

I also managed to cope with it. Im 21wks now and the pains are starting to get worse but im loving it :D

[Boogles91]

I was like you, strong hormones! N all that, same with the shifts only you need to tell your work escpecially if your job was like mine om your feet from the mokment you got there and with 45mins break in total. Its not good for you or the baby, my doc cut my hours immediatlet and told me to tell my boss either put me on part time or i go on the sick for 3months! X

[ithoughtofitfirst]

zara you've just reminded me to mention the third and fourth thing that makes me cry; the thought of the labour (and thd fact that i had a 'lovely' one last time but it still, nonetheless, hurt like fuck), and the first few weeks with a newborn and a toddler.

My toddler is a dream though, and coping with having a crap mum like an absolute champ.

I'm going to bed now. At 9pm. Eurgh.

[Pregnantagain7]

Sorry Anna didnt see your last post! I think the both end things might be a bug I've never had it, but everyone is different hopefully it's a one off.

It's awful not being able to tell anyone why you are feeling so bad and I can see my dh's eyes glaze over when I start my nightly moan!

[Pregnantagain7]

Zara- best way is to not think about it! If you get on well with your in laws I would lock them in your house! Seriously that will be an absolute godsend you lucky thing!:) I haven't even told my mum yet I feel like I'm fifteen again!

[Zara8]

alita when I feel like death warmed up, I tend to think it means that the human body is a disgusting thing.

Oh and if there is a god, he is a misogynistic bastard....

[Zara8]

pregnantagain I am in denial about what third trimester with a nearly 2 year old will be like

Wonderful DPILs are coming to stay a month before I'm due for 2 months. I suspect I will be weeping with gratitude by then!

OUCH re the fanny wax. I had a Brazilian done 4 months after DS was born but not since because (1) can't justify the cost (2) look of horror on beautician's face when she saw the scar from my (v bad) second degree tear

I have medication for my nausea but it makes me sleepy!!!

I have been forced to tell friends and work already because I look so ill and drained