I have no ideas left of what to try. My 4 year old son has been ‘wee potty trained’ since roughly when he turned 3. He picked it up so quickly with little to no accidents. HOWEVER, he (for the very first time) when we were toilet training had constipation. It was really bad and basically associates that with pooing on the toilet. So he refuses to poo on the toilet now. He has done for over a year now. So he wears pants all day with no accidents but when he needs a poo he has to ask to have a nappy on so he can go. He is happy to do a stand up wee or a sit down wee so is not scared of the toilet. When he poos in a nappy he sits on the toilet to do it. But if you whip that nappy off he will hold it in for as long as needed so he won’t go. Problem is that just causes constipation again. So it’s a cycle we can’t break and have no idea what to do. He just says he’s scared and it’ll make him poorly and I really don’t want to pressure him.
Thanks for any advice or tips to try.
(not night time potty trained yet)
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Rachel757677 · 03/03/2024 07:19
He is 4? And he wears a nappy?
Rachel757677 · 03/03/2024 07:19
He is 4? And he wears a nappy?
frenchnoodle · 03/03/2024 03:39
We did this;
Cut a hole in the nappy, so the poo falls through, slowly make the hole bigger over a few weeks, until the nappy is non-existent.
UnimaginableWindBird · 03/03/2024 09:08
Will he poo in the bathroom? Because that could be the first step. If the hole doesn't work, you could maybe try loosening the nappy and eventually getting him to poo onto a nappy on the floor, and moving from that to a potty to a toilet seat. The good thing about children that age is that they can tell you what they are and aren't comfortable with, and can understand gradually working towards a goal they are aren't ready for yet, so you talk to him and work out a plan together based on what he's scared of/ok with right now, and just helping him to take tiny steps towards his goal.
When DS was working towards pooing in the loo, I also encouraged him towards independence in other areas of toileting, so wiping himself, flushing the loo, disposing of the dirty nappy and washing his hands.
He was, in many ways,more independent than DC1 who would call "MUMMY! I Dunna poo! Wipe my BOTTOM!" for around a year after technically being toilet trained.
Giveupnow · 03/03/2024 08:50
My 3.5 yo DD is like this, I’m hoping it self resolves. She won’t sit on the toilet to poo, I think the main problem is she doesn’t like sitting still long enough even with iPads/books etc. I think putting pressure on her would be the worst thing and she would end up in a cycle of constipation. She’s been dry since age 2.
ignore @Rachel757677 she clearly is a judgemental idiot
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hauntedvagina · 03/03/2024 08:21
There's a story app called Poo goes to Pooland. This was one of our tactics.
Kids can be stubborn little fuckers about this so please don't blame yourself. My child would soil themselves at school over poo in the toilet. We got there, probably around age 4.
This was a child who had been weeing in the toilet from age 2.
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