Child does not prompt to go to bathroom

[Pinklilly]

Hi all, I’ve been potty training for about 4 weeks. My daughter is now 2y5m. I’ve clearly messed up at some point as my daughter isn’t prompting when she wants to go. This is resulting in me asking her every hour if she wants to go, and often she agrees to go at 2 hour mark. So I don’t push it and at 2 hr mark ask and she usually agrees before that it’s a very strong no and becoming annoyed at me asking.
this is resulting in some accidents but I don’t know how to help her realise her full bladder. Poos she is fine and goes to the toilet fine.

im wondering if I should just stop asking? Is this unhelpful?

I should add we didn’t follow the oh crap method mostly because my daughter was very uncomfortable being naked or just bottom half naked so we did knickers and a dress no tights and even then she was asking me for tights! So I ended up doing a method of taking her to the toilet at regular intervals to get her used to the sensation. Is that where I messed up?
feeling really lost with it!
we do nappy for naps and bedtime (both nappies always have wee in them) her nap is 2 hours long. Night sleeps 12 hours and through the night.

[RandomMess]

Just back off.

Leggings are good for soaking up wee accidents. Stick her in leggings only ask before you leave the house or go outside etc.

[Nix32]

You haven't messed up at all! Prompting is entirely normal and necessary. Eventually she will recognise the sensation of needing to go - at the moment she doesn't and she needs reminding. Keep going!

[Ribbonss]

We just went cold turkey in the day time nappies. It led to a messy couple of days but after that, absolutely no issues

[Ribbonss]

We didn’t do the whole bottom half naked thing. Just regular clothes….i think that sensation of wetting yourself teaches them very quickly about what happens when they don’t go to the potty! I also gave out choccie buttons for successful potty trips. I think dc were definitely ready when I started as they’d tell me when they’d done something in their nappy….but within 2/3 days they were fully trained during the day.

[Pinklilly]

Thanks for all your replies! I will back off but glad to know that prompting isn’t the worst way!

[SashaRose]

I think it can take a while for them to initiate going. Oh Crap does have some useful advice on this around building into the day so it doesn’t feel like asking them I.e. it’s lunchtime let’s go to the toilet and then wash our hands or we are off our now let’s go on our way to the car, that kind of thing

[Cocacolacarrie]

Both of my boys needed prompting. Rather than clock watching, try and make a routine of it.

Wake up in the morning, go for a wee.
Just before breakfast, go for a wee.
Get dressed, go for a wee.
Before you leave the house, go for a wee
When you arrive somewhere, go for a wee etc etc

They get used to it, but it takes time.

[Pinklilly]

@Cocacolacarrie i think that’s a really sensible approach and that’s what I’ve been trying but equally respecting when she says no (if practical) ie yesterday on arriving home from nursery I said do you want to go to the toilet she said no so I left it. But before we leave the house I say let’s go to the toilet. I don’t know if she understands the subtle difference between me saying let’s go vs me asking but I’m trying to show her I trust her to listen to her body. I found me making her go is resulting in some defiance. I want her to see that going to the toilet is for her benefit rather than because mummy is telling me! It’s a battle haha!