Youngest DD who has just turned 4 and will start school in September is still not reliably potty trained. And we’re not talking the odd accident, this is at least one per day.
We started training her at 2.5 and she seemed totally ready. She very quickly seemed to get the hang of it in terms of taking herself off and doing most wees and poos in the toilet but has never got to a stage of being completely continent. We’ve had the odd successful week here and there but she always reverts back to accidents. We’ve tried reward charts, getting her to clean up, have spoken to the health visitor, ERIC and the gp and are still no further forward.
Both ERIC and the gp suggested there might be an issue with constipation but the gp wouldn’t prescribe more than 1 sachet of laxitives a day and only for 2 months. He did make a referral for us but that was 2 months ago and we’ve just had a letter saying that the wait time is 12 months +
So what am I supposed to do? I’m devastated that my otherwise bright and happy child will probably have daily accidents at school. Plus, rightly or wrongly, completely mortified at the thought of having to explain the situation to the school. I don’t feel as though this is just a case of ‘she’ll get there eventually’ and I feel as though I’ve exhausted all avenues.
Please someone give me some hope or advice as to where we go from here and how we handle school.
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unicornglittersprinkles · 09/02/2024 12:20
pjani · 09/02/2024 18:29
I agree accidents are common in reception but the school may find it hard to meet the needs of a child having more than one every single day…
pjani · 09/02/2024 17:33
Could you afford to pay privately for help? If it’s to get a prescription for help with constipation maybe a private GP would prescribe rather than needing to pay for a specialist?
You could also try and get a second opinion from within the GP practice or make a complaint if you think it’s justified? Has the medication helped?
unicornglittersprinkles · 09/02/2024 19:07
Yes, I understand that which is why I’m panicking. Believe me I’m ashamed to say that I would have been the first to judge parents in this situation before being in it myself. This is absolutely not through lack of trying (and I’ll add I successfully potty trained my two older children) so your comment isn’t particularly helpful
pjani · 09/02/2024 18:29
I agree accidents are common in reception but the school may find it hard to meet the needs of a child having more than one every single day…
boredybored · 10/02/2024 09:18
You can buy movicol though can't you?
If she has a blockage it will be seeping through and she won't be able to control this .
Honestly though I'm sure it will come good by September. My son just suddenly got it and I tried sooo hard to get him toilet trained .
changefromhr · 11/02/2024 10:33
What's her diet like op? Does she have fruit shoots and things like that? Common sweeteners in things like children's drinks can be really irritating for the bladder.
Does she get enough fibre from her diet?
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