Anyone potty training right now?

[SPR1107]

We're on day 4, and I just thought I'd see if there was anyone else out there whose currently doing it.

Maybe share some tips and tricks we've found helpful so far? Or just for a bit of a min when it seems to be going a little wrong!

[Eesha]

Dimwitted question here but I'm preparing to start training this week. I'd like to use pull ups as my children will fuss without anything on but what do they wear at night (as they aren't dry yet). Would it be normal nappies or dry night pull ups?

[Woollysocks18]

Happy we are at the exact same stage, pretty much nailed the pees but poo is a nightmare. Caught him mid poo this morning and got him on the toilet and that was the first he has done a (half) poo on the loo in 2 weeks since we started. He waits for us to leave the room and goes in his pants.

It's harder with poo because our DS goes once a day vs 10 odd pees so there is so much less opportunity too!

[HappyAndYouKnowItGlugTheWine]

Did anyone have issues with DC not pooing on the potty? We've been potty training 2 weeks and 3 days now. Wees were sorted by day 2 and he is dry all day including nap time (so don't bother with nappy then), but wears nappy for bed at night. But we've only had 1 poo in the potty! He knows he's doing it/needs it but goes all odd jumping around the room and essentially trying everything to avoid having to go in the potty. If he's got joggers on he'll go in those instead every day. We've tried poo goes to Pooland, lots of potty books, rewards etc but so far no luck. Gone back to naked from waist down during weekend when I'm home (he's at nursery in the week) but he's holding it mostly. Any experience or advice please!!! Getting a bit concerned now!

[HoustonBess]

@Eesha I think SPR1107 explained it really - someone lent us the book, you could prob get a second hand one cheap.

No pull ups, went commando for four weeks or so now has little pants. Starting out with pants apparently triggers muscle memory of nappies and makes them more likely to wet.

Didn't bother with a sticker chart, just praise as we went along.

[SPR1107]

Hi all,

We started Boxing Day, we've been dry since New Year's Eve using the oh crap method. As a run down of the book...

• naked for a few days, then when they have successfully mastered that, move on to commando with joggers (easier to pull up and down), then when they've mastered that, move on to pants. The book says pants (and pull ups) set off the same muscle memory that nappies do, which makes them wee and have accidents, so leave them until last. I then bought bigger pants to help this

• for my son particularly, it worked just having a potty around and a seat on the toilet and keep saying 'if you need a wee or a poo, your potty is over there' and letting him make the decision for himself. If we tried to sit him on it, he turned into an ironing board.

• if he had an accident, the book says, don't say things like 'don't worry, it was just an accident', instead say nothing other than 'next time you do your wee wee in the potty' and point to it. So quite not committal about how you feel about the accident.

• it says if you move to the stage of joggers and they keep weeing them. Go back to naked for another day or two.

• when we're out and about, we took a travel potty until he'd got used to big toilets, and every ten minutes or so we just say 'remember to tell mummy or daddy if you need a wee wee'

• we praised him for going but not OTT, just like 'well done, high 5!'

Those are the main tips I can remember. We stayed indoors for 3 days naked, then we popped to like grandparents to practice with the joggers etc, then he went back to nursery 2nd Jan and that was that.

Hope that helps! Good luck!

[Eesha]

@HoustonBess so assume then you usr pull ups now rather than nappies, or is it straight to pants? I wasn't sure whether to invest in a book unless brilliant. Just thought a sticker chart would be enough but will take a look

[HoustonBess]

@Eesha we used the oh crap book - I'm not 100% wild about it but has worked and did so for a few friends too. It's more of a crash course approach, I think it would suit SAHMs especially.

I think it's better to get the stress done all in one than stretch it out by putting them on the potty occasionally, which can be confusing. Oh crap says to just decide not to use nappies (other than for naps/sleep) and make that the new rule. It also says if you leave it past 3 1/2 or so then they might just fight it for the fun of it and that would be harder.

DD 2yr 3m started just after Christmas and we're just about sorted now - hardly any accidents but we're still prompting her to go rather than her asking. It was stressful for a couple of weeks then clicked a bit and we all relaxed.

[Eesha]

Hi, just about to start potty training twins at 2yrs 8m. I have got mixed advice, putting children on toilet ever hour for ten mins, or buying one of those pretend toilets, or even waiting till later. I'm a SAHM mum so have the time to do it but just a bit unsure of the best approach. Do I set aside a week and do this solidly?

[KTD27]

Anyone still reading this? We are giving it a go again today as DS has been dry at night for a while. So far nothing. Not an accident not a dribble. He’s like a camel! How long is too long not to go??

[tappitytaptap]

We've cracked wees largely but he won't poo on the toilet or potty v often, he has done before but mostly starts it in his pants. I understand this is really common but has anyone been through this and has any tips?

[tappitytaptap]

Me! On day 4 with a 2yr 9 month old DS. Not been quite as bad as I expected but some accidents. Bizarrely he was best at nursery on day 2, only one accident and kept asking to go. He’s currently sat on the loo with YouTube saying he needs a poo whilst I breastfeed 15 week old DS2 . This morning he’d absolutely saturated his nappy and massively leaked everywhere. Can’t remember the last time he did that - I wondered whether he’d held wee in yesterday?!

[Labmum]

@SPR I'm quite conservative on these things and would say maybe after a month or so with no/very few accidents.

We're doing ok. He had one accident per day at nursery, all at similar times. Then he had 4 days at home where we had only one accident total. He's now started telling us when he needs a wee and can hold it quite well too. Back at nursery yesterday and one accident again and as I walked in he was quietly in a corner straining so I whisked him to their bathroom but it was a false alarm. Think the accidents coincide with the busy time of day at nursery with them serving tea and parents starting to pick up so they maybe struggle to keep on top of it when he's not great at asking yet. He'll get there though so I'm not worried.

[SPR1107]

When do we get to say they're potty 'trained' and not potty 'training' like is there an amount of time?

[SPR1107]

I would definitely consider that a success @thewaitresses.

Maybe she just didn't need to go @InMyOwnParticularIdiom. DS didn't go from 2 until 5.30 today, we went to the shops and to a group, I took the travel potty, but he didn't need to go until we got home again.

We are accident free today, and had joggers on all day! Hoping to crack wearing pants within the week. Also wondering how long I'll need to carry the travel potty around with me before he's comfortable being plonked on a normal loo.

On the thought of making progress with this, dummy weaning has been crossing my mind. Anyone else use one? Dreading that waaaaaaay more that potty training

[InMyOwnParticularIdiom]

Went into town this morning and it was ok! DD used the toilet insert before we went out and then she didn't need to go while we were in town (I offered the travel potty twice). She didn't go after we got in either and now is down for her nap with a nappy on - could she have been withholding because she knows she gets a nappy after lunch??

Overall a positive tho, can start going to our usual playgroups again when they start up next week.

[thewaitresses]

🙌🙌 everyone's doing so well! We've had a complete mixed bag today. T1 started the day with lots of accidents - poo included, but ended the day with two wees on the toilet that she told us she was about to do so we could get her there on time. T2 started off enthusiastically sitting on the potty with no real luck and ended it screaming blue murder in protest at the potty and doing two huge wees on the kitchen floor.
However, we've done our first official day of no nappies all day so I'm considering today to be a success (even though I'm already dreading tomorrow!)

[InMyOwnParticularIdiom]

Started training DD 2.3 on Monday, we went nude on the bottoms for the first 3 days.

Monday and Tuesday we were grabbing her whenever she started to wee and putting her on the potty, but couldn't see any giveaway sign that she was about to go. Felt like I was doing it all wrong.

Then yesterday I spotted a little cross legged thing she does when she needs to go, and since then have caught everything in the potty Oncoming poos are more obvious because she does laps of the kitchen table then tells us to go away in the other room!

Today she wore joggers (commando underneath) and we even walked to the corner shop.

Gathering the courage to get the bus into town tomorrow. It's a pain in the arse that I failed my driving test last month, because with buses it takes 30-40 mins to get anywhere. But if I stay housebound too much longer my depression will kick in so I need to bite the bullet.

[Labmum]

Today was DS's first day back at nursery and as he's still not verbalising that he needs to go and requires prompting I honestly thought we'd have LOADS of accidents but he only had one late-afternoon which tends to be when he has an accident if he has one as he no longer naps and that's when he tends to get the most tired. So hopefully he can keep it up again tomorrow!

[SPR1107]

So today, we had one 'on purpose' accident.. he'd been asked to go and sit on the step for kicking me, (only thing that calms him down), so he weed on the floor.
But we went to the playbarn commando with joggers on, and he came and told me every time he needed to go. I left the potty out next to me as a visual reminder, and sat myself next to the toilets so we could nip in the second he needed to, we had one wee on the potty in the playbarn seating area because he was shouting 'QUICKLY!'... not sure what the etiquette is for that, but he was fairly hidden and nobody batted an eyelid.
We got home and he had a nap, woke up shouting 'I NEED A WEE'... thumbs up that he recognised it... thumbs down that it get his normal 1 hour 20 nap, to 40 minutes!
All wees and poos completely unprompted on the potty this afternoon so I put some pants on him to test run, and he instantly weed. I read up and it says tight pants set off muscle memory which makes them think they have a nappy on... could be nonsense but either way it made him really upset, so we're sticking with commando for a few more days!

Anyone else found pants a bit on the small side? These were 3-4 and were snug, in going to have to get 4-5 or 5-6... he's only 2.4 (although sizeable)

[thewaitresses]

🙈 anything for a child free afternoon!

Thank you - saying that you don't ask, just point out, makes so much sense. The girls are getting so angry with me constantly asking!!

[SPR1107]

Maybe they're getting a little confused because they're spending half the day with one on.
We don't ask DS if he wants to use the potty, we just point out that it's there if he needs to do a wee wee. On the first day when he had an accident on the floor, we just sort of said 'whoops, mummy will clean this up but next time, your wee wee needs to go in your potty'. Then by the end of that day, it started to register.
I really found the Oh Crap book helpful. Would their nanny not consider reading it if that was your preferred method too?
If not, there are some cheat sheets in it that basically summarises it all.

P.S If someone offered me a child free afternoon, I'd of done the exact same!

[thewaitresses]

Wow! Well done to your ds! That's amazing.
I'm getting myself all tied up in knots about whether I'm doing things right 😱!
After saying I was going to stay home all day, dh offered to take the girls out for the day as he's back to work tomorrow. I caved as I really wanted to put the decs away so after a nappy free morning they went out with nappies on.
When they got back in the afternoon they screamed about having their nappies off and are getting more reluctant about sitting on the potty. I don't want to confuse them but also life keeps on happening!
I keep reading things about not using pull-ups, just going cold turkey on nappies and I'm worried this might be happening.
However I know that the nanny, who's minded countless children, including four of her own, is much more keen on a gradual approach (ie nappy free time with pull-ups for times they're needed).
The other issue, which you mentioned before, is that they're not keen on wearing anything on their bottom half without a nappy.
If I can get them into leggings tomorrow I'm going to go about our day as usual, no nappies, and just see how it goes!

[SPR1107]

How'd you get on the rest of the day @thewaitresses?

We were ready so that the second he'd had a wee, we could go around the block or nip to the park. I guess not so easy with twins, as they'll be weeing at different times.

Today was DS first day at nursery, and he didn't have a single accident! Got all the way there fine, and went and told them every time he needed to go, so surprised, as the potty's are kept in a different room (bathroom), and there's lots of distractions happening. He had a tiny bit of poop on his bottoms when we got home, but it was a case of needing to go and holding it in, because when we got in the door he went properly on the potty. So I'll take that!

We're off to a small soft play tomorrow, I figured they'll have seen children do all sorts in there, I'll go armed with antibac wipes and change of clothes and hope for the best! He's probably saving all his accidents for me!

[thewaitresses]

Morning! Monday morning went quite well but then we reverted to nappies as we were out and about too much - including a 3hr walk and a couple of hours in the car yesterday.
We're back to no nappies this morning and have had 1 potty wee and 1 in the high chair. Already feeling cabin fever but if staying close to home helps then that's what we have to do!
I'm back at work on Monday and the girls' nanny will be back - id like to at least get them started successfully.

[SPR1107]

Sounds like he's doing great!

We used joggers again today, we had one accident, he had just woken up and was in a bit of a daze and just didn't make it. Got very upset about it. Then he managed to pull them up and down for the rest.

He's back at nursery tomorrow, so we have a 20 minute car journey, and then a day full of distractions. I'm expecting accidents. I just need to be very clear with them, that no matter what happens they do not put a nappy on him!