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is it time for the GP?

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waitingforsomething · 03/02/2016 11:04

I have a 3.3yr old and a 6mo baby. I was due to return to work soon but my dh has been offered a contract abroad for a year so I have handed int notice so we can all go sometime in the next 3 months. I loved my job and felt a bit sad. Ive never lived abroad and am feeling sick with nerves. I am finding it hard at home with my children, I am so bored and don't Have as many friends as I used to- many friends I met through dd with 2nd babies have returned to work already as their babies are a bit older and I haven't had much success at baby groups this time round.
I am finding myself very tearful and feeling like my life is becoming a bit pointless. I'm not even a good mum- couldn't Breast feed, shout at my dd sometimes, let her watch too much tv. I hate soft play and toddler groups and have to force myself. I don't even have a job to go to and have been rejected from a couple of interviews in the country we are moving to. I'm crying a lot- is it just a lot of change and I will get better soon or should I see a gp? Feeling pretty fucking miserable to be honest.

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HappyHeart87 · 03/02/2016 11:11

Hey OP. Firstly Thanks for all the change and upsetness. I think feeling low and a bit overwhelmed is totally understandable given your situation.

And I am sure on some level you know this, so it's not my intention to patronise you, but not BFing, too much TV and occasional shouting doesn't make you a bad mum. You sound to me like a good Mum who's making some difficult sacrifices for the sake of her family.

The fact that you're wondering about the GP suggests to me that it might be a good idea. Do you know what you'd want as the outcome of an appointment?

waitingforsomething · 03/02/2016 11:22

I don't know. I'm sure it's not normal to cry for most of the day so I just think maybe the GP is the right stop. I'm sensible enough to understand depression and mood disorders I just haven't had one so not sure it's what I'm feeling. I feel so bloody lonely even though I do know people and feel like I'm just not being good enough for my kids.
Ive made a big sacrifice for my dh and perhaps its at my own expense and happiness. Usually if I feel unhappy with a situation I'll change it but I can't - ive quit my job and agreed to this move.

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