It won't be coming from us! Our two DCs sleep has been so awful for so long that both me and DH are giving up on our dearly held desire for three children.
I am thinking of starting a thread in sleep about it, but feel strangely rleuctant. Maybe because DH is actually the one looking after DCs at night and partly because I just don't know where to begin. Can I run it past you guys? Please feel free to skip it if you don't feel like it.
Ok.
DH is looking after the kids at night firstly because I look after them during the day and he has felxible working until July. The second reason he is is that I need a bi of recuperation time after losing two parents in two years - let alone having had two children, various illnesses and the loss of two other close family members.
At first, he did really well, keeping them in their cots but due to tiredness this has all gone downhill and the three of them sleep, usually very badly, in his bed. He has had enough and thinks it can't get any worse. Sometimes the kids do sleep all night in their own beds but rarely.
DD is 3.4. She has been greatly affected by disturbances while my fatehr was dying and since (in November). Essentially, though she is lonely in her room and wants company. She says her bed is uncomfortable etc...
We did do CC with DD when she was younger, but don't feel it's the right way to go now. She seems very fragile right now. She can also make herself vomit at will now, and starts to do this if any strong opposition is put to her about sleeping.
Daniel is a baby so there's teeth etc to contend with. He doesn't feed at night. He is pretty happy for me to settle him with songs pats etc but not DH. He teethes very badly.
Our current plan is now to move Daniel earlier than we planned into her room. We're going away after Easter and we're going to do it when we come back.
DD has been looking forward to this. However, when we told her this morning she was not keen. She likes sleepign with Papa, i think.
Our plan is to keep them in their room, in their beds. DH is going to take to working at nights and sleeping in the day so he can make a good fist of it. He'll settle them with rocking patting etc. He lieks working at nights anyway.
Does this sound like a rational plan? Is there anything that sounds ridiculous? I feel really angry with DD for being so manipulative and really sorry that she feels insecure and lonely. She is really the problem. We could easily sort Daniel if she wasn't in the room or so likely to wake up. I have lost perspective on the whole problem.
Thanks for reading, if you did!