It doesn't really matter if your religion or denomination was/is considered extreme. What matters to this thread is that you were abused in some way or felt suffocated, a sense of unbelonging, or you weren't given room to be your true self.
My story is that I was brought up fundamentalist Baptist and I actually relate to public figures who lived in government declared cults and had to break away from them even though I grew up in an ordinary town. My church was considered average and normal. And I think that is what is so isolating about it all.
There was a lot of screwed up brainwashing. I was told I would burn in hell or be possessed by demons just for reading certain books or watching certain movies or TV shows. I was told that science was evil, and there was a government conspiracy to end Christianity and that I wasn't allowed to hang out with certain people even if I really liked them if they weren't Christian or the "right" kind of Christians.
My dad would make me watch horror movies about demonic possession like The exorcism of Emily rose when I was 6 and told me I had to watch the entire thing with my eyes open so I would understand what kind of danger my mortal soul would be in if I ever dared to doubt Jesus or the Bible. 😐
I started having real doubts and started to fall away as I became a teenager and especially when I started dating because the rules set in place seemed impossible in the 21st century. I tried dating the "good" Christian men but they pushed and pushed and pushed for sex or they would grope me and when I finally fought back I was called all sorts of names and shamed and they started rumours about me for turning them down.
I felt like I couldn't talk about it. I tried a few times but saw it was frowned upon and a few times I was accused of hate or prejudiced so I shut up and became lonely and depressed. But inside I was imploding because I was having to come to terms with the fact that what my religious group taught me wasn't normal or right. That we were mistreating people. This was 20 years ago.
And it was only just a couple of years that my church was finally exposed for sexual abuse and exploitation of women and children. It is a bitter sweet revelation because while I am glad they are exposed and justice is finally getting served it is difficult to celebrate after so much damage was done before it finally happened and after I and so many others moved on with our lives already.
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BraveLight · 27/01/2024 16:49
concretevase · 05/03/2024 01:54
I actually find having atheists around me as jarring as having evangelicals. Both have an arrogant sense of self righteousness about them based on blind - and unscientific - faith.
PrimitivePerson · 05/03/2024 01:39
I got mixed up with Pioneer in my teens, something that's done me an enormous amount of damage. They're currently being investigated for abuse and safeguarding failures, and I've contributed to the enquiry.
Blog post about my experiences here:
https://journeyman.online/reposted-and-updated-a-year-in-a-cult/
I now can't go anywhere near a church without having a panic attack. It's also caused me massive problems with self-confidence, boundaries and relationships.
whatsitcalledwhen · 09/03/2024 19:06
I read this with great interest - you're a fantastic writer. I'm really sorry for what you went through, it's so sad.
PrimitivePerson · 05/03/2024 01:39
I got mixed up with Pioneer in my teens, something that's done me an enormous amount of damage. They're currently being investigated for abuse and safeguarding failures, and I've contributed to the enquiry.
Blog post about my experiences here:
https://journeyman.online/reposted-and-updated-a-year-in-a-cult/
I now can't go anywhere near a church without having a panic attack. It's also caused me massive problems with self-confidence, boundaries and relationships.
concretevase · 05/03/2024 01:54
I actually find having atheists around me as jarring as having evangelicals. Both have an arrogant sense of self righteousness about them based on blind - and unscientific - faith.
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