Would the use of an adult toy be wrong?

[notaname]

DH and I been married 15yrs. 3 kids but not much sparkle in certain areas anymore. Would it be wrong to use an adult toy to liven things up? We are both Christians but I cant really get my head around the question so cant talk to DH or our priest about my big idea. If Im being frank I want a little more attention and fun in that area. I`ve read a thread or two on here over the years and thought perhaps a toy may do the trick. Would it be wrong though?

[TeaAddict235]

zombie thread no more gamerchick

Good point ditherings, I also know of a few failings of my pastor (especially his family), but I'm not sure that I can justify it. DH thinks its just me being cheeky when I bring up the topic, or he says something along the line of, "well we don't know what they are getting up to", which doesn't help.

[AlanPacino]

Surely this is one of those clear examples where religion and logic depart. You feel on one hand there must be something wrong with it because of what a book seems to say but logically you can't see it causing an issue in your marriage, or even that it brings some benefit. There are other ways you already use logic, such as calling an ambulance first and not a vicar in a medical emergency so there's no reason not to let your logic win out in this one.

[JAPAB]

Sorry, that was a bit flippant. But does the babile say anything about, er, "accessories". I'm not sure if there was an equivalent when the bible was written.

It says things that have been interpreted by some religions to mean no masturbation or other sexual activities that are "inherently" not open to new life.

Though I think the rhythm method gets a pass because overall piv sex is open to new life, but if God designed the procreational system to be such that it includes natural breaks in fertility, then you are not artificially circumventing that design or meaning of the act. If I have remembered this correctly anyway.

But well, maybe masturbation with a sex toy would probably fall foul of those interpretations. Perhaps someone could email the Pope.

[headinhands]

Though I think the rhythm method gets a pass because overall piv sex is open to new life,

That's a specifically catholic interpretation isn't it? And again it comes down to logic surely. Isn't it logical to prevent an unwanted pregnancy? Is every child conceived wanted by God? Two people with terminal cancer? Rape? And how do we tally this sanctity of life with the OT flood? So many babies God wanted but then deliberately wiped out?

[JAPAB]

Isn't it logical to prevent an unwanted pregnancy?

It might be "logical" but then the reasons that make it so might persist even immediately after birth. But some would perceive it as immoral to terminate a neonate, or a seven month old unborn, no matter how "logical" the reasons. And of course some do well before these times.

So many babies God wanted but then deliberately wiped out?

I think that for those that believe in God, he might not be subject to the same rules as we are. Bit like parents and children, or the government and citizens. They might say that he could see some greater good in the flood that we cannot.

Yes I did mention a specifically Catholic interpretation. Whether the use of sex toys as part of sex fits in with the internal logic of a Catholic moral framework is a different consideration than that for other religions.

The ones that allow condoms and masturbation ought to be OK with them. I think, anyway.

[AlanPacino]

hey might say that he could see some greater good in the flood that we cannot

Can you think of a scenario where a loving parent deliberately drowns their baby?