They aren’t friends and it looks likely that boyfriend and his dog will move in with me and my 3 cats soon. Been together 3 years, the dog is a rescue English setter (described as ‘cat tested’ before bf rescued him but we think he was so traumatised at that time that he probably wasn’t reacting to anything). Boyfriend doesn’t live locally so visits are intermittent/long weekends etc.. Because his dog is so reactive to my cats (chasing, lunging, obsessed with any random location where he’s once seen one of my cats), we have been keeping them separate. Now I’m not sure this was the right thing to do. My cats are afraid of the dog. This wasn’t something I was worried about as I’ve lived with dogs and cats together before but never with a dog that’s so reactive to cats.
Can anyone give me hope that these animals can peacefully cohabit without one of them getting hurt or running away? Keeping the pets separated is becoming exhausting. Any advice welcomed! Thank you!
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KittySmith1986 · 08/02/2024 17:41
K0OLA1D · 08/02/2024 18:17
I don't think I'd ever be able to trust a dog who is so reactive. Apart from keeping them completely separate. Which won't be fair on either party really, I honestly don't know the answer. Dogs IMO need to have been used to cats from a young age to be able to be around them.
ilovesooty · 08/02/2024 18:24
I wouldn't be considering moving a boyfriend with a reactive dog in.
Your poor cats. It's their home and they should feel safe in it.
Flatpackedboxes · 08/02/2024 18:27
Baby gate. Dog downstairs, cats upstairs with access to the outside.
HollywoodTease · 08/02/2024 18:21
Setters are bred for hunting, they have a strong prey drive. Any smaller animal will be seen as something to chase and kill. ☹️
You could try introducing them slowly and for short periods but getting any kind of rapport will be a long slow process and might never happen.
How much training has the dog had? Sessions with a behaviourist might help.
In the meantime I'm afraid I'm Team Cat, you may have to shelve the idea of living together whilst your bf still has his ddog.
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