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How to cope with a constantly crying baby

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mears · 18/12/2004 22:59

I am starting this thread as a follow-on to this one here

PINNY is new to mumsnet and really needs support with her constantly crying baby.

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xmashampermunker · 18/12/2004 23:01

Hi Pinny

Not sure I can offer you any advice, but I can offer you hugs and support if it gets too much. Just read about your DD on the other thread - poor little girl. I used to get lots of ear infections so know how painful it can be.

Big hugs xxx

AimsmumTheRedNoseReindeer · 18/12/2004 23:14

Hi I posted on your other thread too
If the constant crying is due to the ear pain, I have found that with DD the pain eases a bit if she is more upright. For instance It is ten times worse for her lying in bed (as the preassue is building up and cant drain). So you may find your DD gets some relief from being proped upright a bit. Even if it doesn't work its worth a go?? as it is awful during the night. During the worse times DD slept the best at night in a buggy with a pillow and a blanket, as the angle she was lying at helped with the preasure behind the ear drum.
Hugs to you I know how hard it is I've been through it for over 2 years, but am finally feeling the end of it is in sight (i hope )

PINNY · 19/12/2004 09:06

I was only introduced to this site yesterday and already i am hooked! I actually feel i now i have a place to turn when things are getting a little tough!
DD has always been an extremely cry baby, first with colic until 5-6 months old (although beginning to wonder if it has always been her ears! - see other thread!) Her left eardrum perforated at 6 months and has continued to do so 5 times now (always her left ear) Seems to always have a cold, full of mucus and coughing! Thanks Aimsmum for the advice, i really appreciate any words of advice/support. I have always had her sleeping on a tilt because of her mucus etc. I'm feeling my reserves are pretty non existent at the moment as it's gone on for nearly a year now and poor dd#1 is now beginning to get brunt of my frustration, Guilt+++ I could go on and on...

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TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 19/12/2004 09:20

Well welcome Pinny

as I said on your other thread I have no experience of this so can't help that much but wanted to say hello

oh and remember DD will get better .. this is a short-term thing that WILL GET BETTER

Good luck

EbenyZebraScrooge · 19/12/2004 09:24

Lots of wine, Pinny. I imagine that's how I would cope.

PINNY · 19/12/2004 10:02

Thanks folks i'm actually becoming a conisseur (wrong spelling?) of wine these days!

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mears · 19/12/2004 11:03

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SenoraPostrophe · 19/12/2004 11:21

Hi Pinny - I read this thread yesterday and have been trying to think of something useful for you.

DS is a bit of a whinger/cryer (due to constant colds, bronciolitis and a habit of only eating a little bit at a time, so he's often hungry) and you do have my sympathy. Reading about your experiences have made me feel a bit better too - I keep reading that repeated bronciolitis is a sign of asthma but perhaps it just so happens that once a baby gets one infection, they are then more likely to get the same kind of infection again? Dd gets ear infections as I keep mentioning on other threads.

Anyway - I find that a good soother for ds is rhythmic tapping (on him or on something near him). A friend told me that this was a good way to get babies to sleep - didn't work for that but it does keep him calm when he's ill.

I also occasionally take it out on dd - it's quite natural and it sounds like you have it worse than me.

Biggest "tip" I guess is to take 10 mins to yourself every now and again (I leave both of them with dh and run upstairs for 10 mins on Mumsnet!). Plus alleviate the guilt with extra "quality time" for dd1 (mine gets a bedtime story to herself). You probably already know that though!

NatureDoc · 19/12/2004 20:28

Welcome to Mumsnet Pinny - it really is a brilliant site.

As I said in the other thread please please go and see a cranial osteopath and a good naturopath or homeopath - www.babydirectory.com - they should have a good list of baby friendly practitioners in your area. These therapies have worked AMAZINGLY for both my kids. Best of luck.

mumto2boys · 19/12/2004 21:21

As someone who suffers from ear infections and burst eardrums.... it is horribly painful - and I know what the problem is so to a young child it must be awful... and awful to you as well struggling to cope with seeing your child in pain and being so helpless.... I really feel for your dd, you and your family...

One thing that helps me is lying with my head on a warm water bottle (I fill the bottle with the hottest water I can get from my taps - NOT from the kettle - and then put the bottle in a cover) - I find the heat quite soothing.

Keep pestering your GP and your ENT dept for an appointment - I know NHS waiting lists are long (I work for the NHS...) but if your child is in pain and it is a long-standing probelm... then pester, pester, pester for a cancellation - they do get them!!

TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 19/12/2004 21:53

If heat does help, you might like those wheatgrass bags .. you can pop them in the microwave and they stay warm (not hot) for ages .. plus no risk of leaking and are comfy'ish to lie on

TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 19/12/2004 21:53

wheatgrass? wheatgerm? oh what do I mean?

TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 19/12/2004 21:55

Just googled .. its wheat bag

PINNY · 19/12/2004 22:19

i think i might try the wheatbag - good idea, although we'll see if she stays in one place long enough to get effect!

juniperdropofbrandy · 19/12/2004 22:28

Hi pinny, just popping in. my DS1 was a constant cryer, for months When he was older i went to a village toddler group and got talking to a load of mums who swore by cranial osteopathy. DS1 was ok by then but I swore if I had another cryer I'd go and see one. DS2 wasn't but had lots of problems with behaviour up until this year when I went to see a CO. He's so much better now you wouldn't believe it

anyway must dash but nice to meet you and take care hun xx

Flumberrysauce · 20/12/2004 13:16

Have you got a swing chair - they seem to stop babies crying very well. I don't suppose it would work long term as she would still be in pain from her ears but it could give you a bit of peace.

I got ours from someone on ebay for a tenner and you just pop baby in, wind it up and it rocks them. You can buy them brand new for about £80.

My baby cries rarely, I just don't know how you are coping. Poor you and poor her,

juniperdropofbrandy · 20/12/2004 13:19

totally agree about the swing FS. I had one with DS2 and they're a godsend.

PINNY · 20/12/2004 16:40

i totally agree with baby swings, i got one for a tenner also when she had colic and it did work sometimes then. It's now broken so i know why it was only a tenner now!To be honest she seems to get bored so quickly she doesn't sit still for any length of time before she starts crying!

ellasmum1 · 21/12/2004 00:07

Hi Pinny.I too have a DD who was a NIGHTMARE constantly crying all day every day,didn't know what the problem was.It is a living hell I swear i wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.I tried a cranial osteopath for around £25-30 a session,and it helped a bit.But the amazing cure was taking her to a kinesiologist(look it up on web under kinesiology).The girl i used is in northern ireland but there are plenty here.After two sessions she was a different child and has been ever since(2 yrs on).Basically I recommend keeping an open mind and trying some alternative therapies-What have you got to lose?

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