DS is 11 weeks and I'm starting to wonder how we can start to get a bedtime routine in place... sorry in advance for essay
He's breastfed and a frequent feeder who still cluster feeds in the late afternoon/ evening. He rarely goes longer than a 2.5 hour stretch at night without waking to feed although sometimes he stretches to 3 (twice 4 but those seem to have been flukes!) A few weeks back, we started DP giving him a bottle of two of expressed milk between 8/9pm-12-1am so that I could get a proper stretch of sleep. This has been really helpful for my sanity but starting to wonder how much longer we can keep going for if we want to get DS into a proper routine.
During the time with DP the baby will go to sleep in the living room whilst i sleep in the bedroom, but it's variable when he'll go down - between 9.30 and 11pm. DP will then wake me when he wakes up to feed and I'll take over for the rest of the night. When I take over, DS falls asleep quickly after feeding and is very easy to settle in the snuzpod.
We try to keep the simulation in the living low in the evenings - low lighting, TV on quiet, but obviously it's not the same as a dark, silent bedroom. I'm starting to think we need to change things to encourage him to sleep earlier but it's also scary to think about losing my block of sleep!!
Usually I'm unable to establish much of a bedtime routine in the evening as DS is fussy and feeding so much and DP doesn't get home till 7.15/7.30 and will then make us dinner whilst I'm feeding the baby, then I'll make a break for it after we've eaten.The other night DP was out and my parents were round so we did things a bit differently. We gave DS a bath at 6pm, fresh clothes, then came back out into the living room where I fed him before we had dinner and then DM gave him a bottle whilst I got ready for bed and then I took him to bed with me at 8ish. We sang some lullabies and I fed him and changed him and fed him and then he went down at 9.30pm and lasted till quarter to one which was pretty good! He then woke up a couple of times after that but I got a tolerable amount of sleep.
However if we tried to do this every night, I would have to find a way to do the bathing etc by myself whilst he's being fussy and maybe feed myself too to get in bed early enough so wouldn't really get to see DP at all. We're following the guidance to keep him in the room with us when he sleeps so putting him down and leaving isn't an option, plus I need that sleep! (Feel selfish about prioritising this over getting DS down earlier but I need to be able to function all night and all day with him...)
Does anyone have any advice on how they managed this, with a baby who wakes up regularly throughout the night? How did you get them into a routine, get some sleep and still see your partner / not go insane???
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How can we get into a better bedtime routine?
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stollen123 · 19/03/2023 07:44
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