I have two kids, just turned 5 year old DS and 2 year old DD. I love them more than anything on this plane so please don’t judge me for what I am about to type.
I can’t help but feel irritated with pretty much everything my DS does at the moment. I try to keep it inside but sometimes I raise my voice (never scream or swear), or if he’s keeping on at me I sometimes say ‘whaaaat?’ In a really childish, annoyed Kevin and Perry type tone.
he was such a sunny, happy little toddler but now he’s so different. He calls me/everything poopoo, he calls his sister stupid, and had told her that her teeth are disgusting, he never says please or thank you, he refuses to wash his hands after using the toilet ever. Anything his sister or (girl) cousins like is poo or disgusting- princesses, unicorns, he can’t just let them enjoy what they enjoy and him enjoy different things. He throws his toothbrush on the floor rather than putting it away, he puts rubbish on the floor instead of the bin. He pretends his legs are hurting at night so I take him downstairs to watch tv for a bit til he’s feeling better- he actually admitted he lied about it.
id feel like it was all my fault but my DD says please and thank you at 2.5 years, she puts stuff in the bin and gives me her toothbrush rather than put on the floor. It probably is my fault somehow but it’s not through lack of trying to make him a kind person who doesn’t say horrible things to people. But I just feel I’m on his back all the time, and he probably wonders why I’m not on DD back all the time but it’s not needed.
he was my first, before DD came along it was just me and him all day and we were/still are so close. He said to me today he never tells me any of his secrets (he said he has a secret relating to chocolate!) because I’ll get stressed at him, that hurt, I want to be the sort of mother they can come to with their secrets, worries etc when they’re older.
im just finding it all so hard, they bicker constantly and don’t listen to me, getting out in the morning is stressful as I feel like a drill sergeant.
I thought as they got older it would stay to get easier but that’s not happening!
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TooOldForThiss · 25/01/2023 17:23
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