Ds used to be a really easy going, cheerful baby but in the last few months he's become quite "bad tempered". I don't think I can call a one year old bad tempered but I'm worried that he's becoming bad tempered.
He screams his head off if he doesn't get immediately what he wants (and he always wants something), throws things and bangs his head against the floor. I didn't know one year olds already had tantrums. He isn't easily distracted from what he wants and basically keeps screaming and head banging till he gets what he wants. Maybe it's normal but my older DC wasn't like this. She'd cry or look sad but she never seemed so angry.
All of this has become much worse since he's joined nursery so maybe it's stress?
I don't know if this is just his personality or a stress response or developmentally appropriate (maybe DD was the abnormal one though I haven't seen other kids get this angry) but I'm not sure what I should do about it. Saying no and distracting doesn't work very well. If I say no it just makes him want something more (and I guess that is normal..they are testing their and our boundaries aren't they), he's too young for explanations (though I do that anyway but I don't think he understands. I don't think he's even figured out what no means yet).
So what can I do to stop my sweet little boy from becoming a bad tempered jerk?
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Strong willed 14 month old - is this normal or is he just a jerk..or am I?
NumberSocks · 29/09/2022 20:37
NuffSaidSam · 29/09/2022 20:53
It's normal.
Pick your battles, only say no when it's really necessary.
When you say no. Stick to it. No has to mean no. The last thing you want is to teach him that screaming and hurting himself means he gets what he wants.
Comfort him if that helps, you can sympathise, use a soothing tone, rub his back etc. if he doesn't want to be held. Or ignore if that works better.
I'd guess it's a bit of frustration at that age as well, they know so much more than they can say. Make sure you're doing lots of talking and repetition of key words, the quicker he learns these the better!
BrokenLink · 29/09/2022 20:52
I think tantrums and anger are common in this age group. Now he is more mobile and inquisitive, he is hearing the word no much more than when he was an infant, and he doesn't understand why. He has huge feelings and very little ability to communicate or understand what is going on. Nursery is a massive change to process. His sleeping and eating has probably changed and his immune system is being challenged. Hunger, tiredness and illness are major catalysts for tantrums.
MrsTerryPratchett · 29/09/2022 20:48
Completely normal.
Were you one of the poor souls that thought your great parenting caused DD's lovely nature?
Those of us with the ummmmmm strong-willed one first knew.
RagzRebooted · 29/09/2022 20:38
Yeah, he's going through a jerk stage. It will end. There will be more.
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