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What are your Parenting Flashpoints?

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NotQuiteCockney · 25/10/2006 16:22

What makes you furious with your kids? Do you think any of your flashpoints are ok? Are there ones you're trying to fix?

I'll go first - I have two big flashpoints. I cannot stand cruelty to animals, of any sort. I'm keeping this flashpoint. I also completely lose it when DS1 cries with frustration, but I'm trying to fix that one (see other thread).

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LoveMyGirls · 01/11/2006 08:12

getting sticky - am working on this one
fake crying - i think they need to work on that one
dd2 turning off the pc (when im in the middle of posting) - i have taped a box over the button
not doing as their told - working on this, joint effort

erm im sure there are loads of others.

NotQuiteCockney · 31/10/2006 21:21

I found a new one today: being sticky. If I am sticky, and it is my child's fault, that's it, all my patience is gone. (I was sticky because he had some calpol, only he had to put the spoon in his mouth himself, and, unsurprisingly, got some on my leg. Ugh.)

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chippa · 30/10/2006 19:47

My worst is high pitched screaming- especially from my 3 year old. You can talk for goodness sake! The constant shouting from the minute he gets up, Pushing his little sister over. Oh dear it's been a long day. Time for a glass of wine I think!

sockmonkey · 30/10/2006 16:02

Ah... the food thing. Preparing a meal, saying he has had enough after 3 bites, then asking for crisps as soon as I have scraped his meal into the bin. If you are hungry eat ALL your dinner!!! GRRRRR. He is 3
DS2 does the trouser limpit thing. Clinging on my legs so I can barely move, put can't peel him off either. Also he likes to slap my face while I BF him. If I tell him off he bites my nipple. Ouch. It's a loose loose situation.

ProfYaffle · 30/10/2006 15:59

Tantrums I can cope with. It's the constant, low level whining that drives me nuts. Along with elbows in my delicate, pregnant boobs, but most of it it's the fecking pissing all over my lap b/c she can't be *rsed to tear herself away from Thomas that really really does it.

babe1 · 30/10/2006 15:52

I really can't let my boys read this thread, as I know how much drinking bathwater and licking the soles of shoes is going to appeal to them. They have some pretty gross bath habits as it is. Spitting mouthfuls of water at each other and stuffing bath sponges into their mouths far enough to close their mouths so that the sponge can't be seen. Can't be safe.

miao · 30/10/2006 15:33

Mine's the drinking the bathwater thing and licking the soles of shoes. Yuk! Thankfully DD's now pretty much grown out of that but only a few months ago I used to have to put all the shoes in my room on the windowsill or on shelves. Does it mean she's lacking in something? Maybe dog poo, as we've only got cats lol!

She still drinks the bathwater, though, and sucks shampoo bottles, tubes of soap etc. And here's me worried about her eating only the best healthy, organic food. I might as well have gone straight on the additive riddled stuff for all the chemicals and pollutants she tries to ingest. Drives me mad.

ZacharyZoo · 30/10/2006 13:31

Omigod don't get me started... whingeing like only girls can, squabbling, putting "ya" on the end of their names ie Evie, becomes "Evieya" when her sister is whingeing at her, leaving wet bath towels all over the bedroom, using my make up, perfume, hair stuff, pyjamas without ever asking me, winding each other up... oh and the temperature in the house is either boiling or freezing, they are only ever starving or can't eat another crumb, nothing in between. DS is only six months old, so i'm sure he will have his own flashpoints, but my only experience at the moment is two girls (12 and 9), i never had sister so i don't have any experience of the relationship, but they spend the every waking hour winding each other up... drives me potty!!

berrycherry · 30/10/2006 13:19

just skimmed this - I lost the plot this morning (as mentioned on another thread)after my dd's were playing up in the car.
saw the link about the jug of water - I don't lose it often (honest) but when dd1 was 4 and dd2 was 3, I threw a cup of cold water over dd1, it stopped the whining so had the desired effect, but I was mortified! i do not slap EVER, but this was pretty awful at the time...my dd's actually laugh about this one isolated incident, and after seeing the link on this thread, I am relieved I am not alone!

duvet · 30/10/2006 12:35

Yep disobedience is mine, justifiably in my opinion. I am careful to count to ten tho before I react.

Mealtimes too, my dd1 3.6 has just started to say when I tell her dinner's ready - "is it going to be a nice dinner?" in a whinge voice. How infuriating and yes then eats some then 10 mins later says I'm hungry mummy, despite my consistency in never giving in. It's eat your lunch or there's nothing else! It will pay off eventually, I've got to say something good too tho, in supermarket at checkout other day, she asked for chocolate, I said no, and she just accepted that so beautifully.... I felt so guilty! But managed not to back down, aah it does pay off you see.

babe1 · 29/10/2006 23:21

I wondered what 'parenting flashpoints'meant. Now I've read the thread - floodgates alert!!! The one that drives me really flipping mad is the constant mess they make of the house! It's unbelievable just how much chaos can be created by three kids under 11, the younger two being the main culprits. Our sofa drives me mad, the seat cushions slide out easily, but it's okay if you just get on and off the sofa like a 'normal' person. Why do the kids have to slide on and off the bloody sofa? Also, we have throws on it, and they just end up in a heap. I tell you, if I had a quid for every time I've put that sofa back straight, I'd be able to buy every Mumsnet member a pint! The sofa thing really is a flashpoint for me. Oh, and things like empty yogurt pots discarded in the lounge, banana skins discarded wherever - and why can't they flush the bloody toilet?!! Grrr!! DH and me went for a very rare night out on Saturday night and when we came in (pissed) well, I was, I honestly thought we'd been burgled!! Our bedroom was TRASHED. I got into bed, felt something hard under my bum - now now ladies - had a fumble about and pulled out a bloody recorder!

I did warn you about the floodgates

nulnulcat · 29/10/2006 21:39

mealtimes, the spending hours trying to get ready to go anywhere, the insisting on walking everyhere then 5 minutes later wanting carrying and what really winds me up is the turning into the child from hell as soon as we enter a supermarket! i end up shrieking at her like a fishwife!!

ambercat · 29/10/2006 20:17

mealtimes without a doubt, ds1 takes forever to eat atiny amount and then complains of feeling hungry 10 mins later.

Also telling them to do something at least 10 times before they listen, drives me mad and i end up screaming at them to do it.

canadianmum · 29/10/2006 20:13

Getting me wet - on purpose - when they are having their bath

jellybrainsalloverthewall · 29/10/2006 07:43

ds (26m) has started to tunnel himself between my legs - charging at me from behind - he did it when I was carrying dd (6m) and i nearly fell - v annoyed when he does that.

I used to get v angry about ds not eating freshly cooked meals i lovingly prepared but have decided to lighten up and play the long game - dd is a very good eater despite only 3 weeks of experience and her presence at the dinner table eating and getting lots of praise is more effective incentive for ds than any ranting and raving from me!

I do get v annoyed with ds when he efuses to cooperate with us when we are trying to go out - i hate chasing him round the house to get his socks on ... but i know getting angyr is pointless so if i lose it i feel v guilty,same as when I get angry with dd for crying and wanting to feed all day as she is teething. Sometimes i have to remind myself i am human and i am not going to be the perfect earth mother all the time - and that i need a couple of me hours

kittythescarygoblin · 29/10/2006 07:39

Screaming, whining and moaning ;(

curlew · 29/10/2006 07:30

That completely BRAINLESS look they get on their faces when watching television.

FillyjonkthePumpkinEater · 29/10/2006 06:46

aaaargh anythin involving my glasses.

they are both fascinated by them, but they are mine fgs, I need them.

also hate being jumped on from behind-ds does it and pulls on my neck-don't like that.

and being excessively whingy and clingy whem I am trying to get dinner on.

Bexc · 29/10/2006 01:04

my parenting flashpoints have to be when my dd doesnt listen and wants to play instead of learn, she wont read as she finds it boring and evry time i try to make it fun for her she gets over giddy!!

Also when she's been naughty and i send her to her room and she has to stand and shout back at me always having to have the last word.....lol

She's only 6!!!

caterpiller · 28/10/2006 11:02

MEALTIMES. Seems to be the cue for bad behviour. I hate everything about them actually: slow eating; picking out 'fat' or the grey bits in salmon etc ; touching their clothes with their foody hands; turning away; EVERYTHING
Also hate fighting /winding up

TinyGang · 28/10/2006 00:38

Well there was this infamous cure a few years ago.

Never tried it, but I think this one went down in mn hall of fame and gets mentioned now and again.

cryptmonkey · 28/10/2006 00:19

Sorry Snowstorm, but if you find out about the screaming cure, let me know, won't you? Ds3 is doing this at the moment!

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Snowstorm · 27/10/2006 22:24

Oops ... sorry ... killed the thread

Snowstorm · 27/10/2006 21:34

Sorry to side-step on this thread but ... DD2 (2 years 8 months) is a screamer - glass shatteringly high pitched, it's awful - am at a loss as to how to stop her from doing this, nothing has worked so far ... anybody got any success stories?

cryptmonkey · 27/10/2006 21:19

Ds1 and ds2 runnning aroung on the landing when they are SUPPOSED TO BE IN BED!!!!
ds3 ignoring the dinner I have put in front of him and pointing at something which he can't have.
ds3 insisting on mixing his drink into his food turning it into inedible slush
Ds2 every night coming back downstairs to get his teddy instead of remembering to bring it up with him at bedtime.
Ds1 losing his pencil case again
Ds1 losing his lunchbox again
Ds1 losing his coat again.
Ds1 and ds2 not putting their shoes on till the last minute before we leave the house.
God, I am a narky cow!

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