ST, Its not a mystery why rape is so costly to women - and also why being labelled a rapist is so costly to men - what I'm saying is that the 'rape is a crime of power not sex' slogan bypasses many of these issues, issues that rely on the unique female perspective, rather than a male or gender neutral one.
MMH - right I see what you mean. Thing is, and what needs to be studied further, is that rape may very well be at one end of an extreme spectrum for women, but not for men. Certainly not for men who find themselves in circumstances where being found out and/or punished is negligable - as in places where social order has broken down, or invading armies where the rape of indiginous women has for milennia been a 'legitiamte' spoil of war for the conquering troops and very easy as all the indiginous men are usually away fighting (and in many cases raping) themselves.
This is the gender perspective divide that needs to be carefully scrutinised. Ignoring it does not help women or the battle to get better justice for victims. And it depends on the acceptance of psyscosexual difference, which is somehting cultural constructivists within feminism and the humanites resist to their last breath, sadly.
I also wouldn't call absinence an extreme. It's hard to imagine whgen we live in a culture where sex seems everywhere, but in our pasts, certaily before the pill, and in cultures that basically imprison women or practice polygyny, a great many of the male population are doomed to abstinence. This is why men traditonally go to war. A population will not suffer if 50% of the men die at war, but it will be devestated if 50% of the women went to war and were killed.
So forced abstinence - for men and women is a tyranny, but not abstience by choice.
It's been known for a while that rape by teens is common.
As for what is deviant, you then have to look into psychiatry. Paedophiles for instance show devient sexual preferences, as to men who prey on the elderly. And these victims are more likley to be killed also. There are specific catagorys. Unfortunalty rape of women is so common around the world that is constitutes a mean, not an extreme.
That does not mean that rape is not commited by devient men, I never said that. Devient men do commit devient sexual offences, but the vast majority of rapes are commited by 'normal' men, although life history, subjective life expectancy (how long the person themselves expects to be around, all contrubute to high risk taking behavior, of which rape is one.
Not sure what you mean by maternal/paternal relationships Hobbgoblin, but live history theory is part of how my particular discipline looks at rape, if that's what you mean, which looks at a variety of factors from the rapists life history as above and measures for corrolates.
MMH, you are very right of course. Men are raped, and in huge numbers in prisons. In environmenst where men congrigate togther and practive their sexuality inhindered by women the amount of sex that goes on, consentual and non consentual is staggering.
You may bet that they are more traumatised than women but you are guessing. There is no dount that men will be traumatised from the assault, but there are essential factors that they do not have to deal with that women do, which makes neglecting the gender element bad for women searching for justice. The stats speak for themselves on that.
I am not attempting to charaterise the debaet as men vs women - I am always ploughing the middle ground in my arguments. Saying men and women are different does not dichotomise them or their issues.