Hi. This is my first time posting but my overwhelming anxiety has led to me wanting some advice.
I have one daughter, who is 10. She is a lovely, kind, caring child who my husband and I adore.
She says she is happy as an only child and doesn’t want siblings!
I have 2 older brothers, who I used to fight a lot with and never included me in their games, so I don’t know what it’s like to be an only child.
I have horrendous mum guilt that she has no siblings (awful birth so did not want to risk another pregnancy/birth).
I have a lot going on right now (perimenopause causing awful anxiety and a stressful new job) and to top it all, we’re now moving house, out of the town my daughter has only ever known.
I feel incredibly sad and guilty for my daughter that we’re moving away from the only place she has known.
She’ll be going to secondary school in a new town, not knowing anyone.
Can someone please ease my anxiety and tell me they have done this with one child and it was all fine?!?
I know she’ll make new friends but, for now, I can’t look past the upset I’m causing her.
I’m worried she’s picking up on my anxiety with all this.
Any advice or reassurance massively appreciated!!
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PopRay80 · 15/02/2024 08:23
Turfwars · 22/03/2024 15:10
It's the best time to make the move. DS is in a small rural school and I can see all his classmates kind of drifting from their solid friendships of their baby years to ones that suit them as the people they are now. There's a few that are choosing to go to a different secondary to create a natural break in an outlived childhood friendship.
We moved where I didn't know anyone (DH's home village) when he was due to start primary so I'd highly recommend if you can when you move, to join the schools parent's association for a few years.
It was invaluable to me to get to know the parents of his classmates, and parents to avoid, and in the process, I made a bloody lovely bunch of friends for me as well! It's good to get to know the teachers /faculty that your daughter will be interacting with, and you can hear a lot through the grapevine.
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