Hi everyone
I am really tearing myself up inside on the decision to try for another child or not with my DH. We currently have a DD, just over 2yrs old and she is healthy and generally a well behaved toddler, sleeps well etc. We were always keen on having a second child, but I we are starting to think/worry how this will impact our relationship and just looking around at friends and colleagues who have two (or more) children - they appear to be more a functional relationships and do appear to be a bit like passing ships, and certainly their weekends simply revolve completely around the kids. There are also more than a few that have separated since the second child.
I compare this to us currently, and close friends with one child, and things just seem more balanced between adult time together, occasional nights away together (Mum in law is great help), and getting away on family holidays are easier and just generally a better balance between parenthood and still being a happy couple.
However we cannot get rid of this burning guilt that we should at least try for a second to give our little one a sibling relatively close in age, and that we are just being selfish. This stems from a lot of the cliches you hear about one child being lonely, spoilt etc etc.
Appreciate any shared experiences, thoughts and advice.
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PowerthruIT · 21/07/2023 14:02
drpet49 · 21/07/2023 14:31
Everyone I know says it is far easier with 2 than 1
drpet49 · 21/07/2023 14:31
Everyone I know says it is far easier with 2 than 1
PeggyPoggle · 21/07/2023 22:01
Everyone I know says the opposite.
drpet49 · 21/07/2023 14:31
Everyone I know says it is far easier with 2 than 1
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