Hi I’m just looking for peoples option and advice, my daughter started nursery a year ago at 2.5.
irs a very small nursery with only about 10-15 children’s however they do take on babies from 3 months up to 5 years. they do Forrest school which is great as she loves being outdoors and there is 4 staff members which I also thought was great as the nursery on my older children’s school for example have 3 staff to about 25-30 children. She can find busy places overwhelming so I thought this Smaller nursery Setting seemed ideal. When she first started she was abit hesitant for for a week or two but then settled in fine. For a good few months dropping her off was easy and I felt she was enjoying it. Her talking came on leaps and bounds also. However the last 3-4 months, have been difficult not only is she crying every single time I drop her off saying she wants me and wants to come home with me and crying for me but she’s also telling me all weekend she doesn’t want to go and when she gets up on a morning that she does not want to go to nursery. I should make it clear as well that there is a little boy there that has pushed her quite a few times, he also targeted her as she’s very kind hearted and loves to play with everyone and has never been mean to anyone before he started saying things to upset her and do things to upset and because she cried when he did this he continued to do this to her as it got a reacting he wanted ( according to nursery) he has pushed her, I’ve also whitnesss him ramming a scooter into her. She now just takes it which is really sad and doesn’t cry, and when he’s saying things to her she just kind of stands there and take it, I’ve told her to say that’s not nice and move away from him , but she doesn’t. However nursery now say that they play together a lot and that there “ fiends” now, however based on his mood he does still push and shove her sometimes or say things to her. But according to nursery the rest of the time they play together happily … however I’m not sure how comfortable I am with that Although I have whitnesssd her running around chasing him on a bike and playing running around in nursery, I have also witnessed while the adults aren’t looking him ran a bike into her and also when I’ve come to collect her infront of me he’s said things that are upsetting to her .. not bothered that I’m stood there. I’ve whitnessed it numerous times on a 5 minute pick up when the staff aren’t with them, yet the staff thinks they are playing nicely… I do wonder if there left alone with the staff thinking he’s being nose but he’s not and my daughter Jusr takes it and hence why she doesn’t want to go everyday. Would you want to go somewhere that someone is blowing hot and cold with you beint friend then not and saying nasty things and pushing you .. no. I’ve mentioned it to nursery but there adamant she’s fine when I leave and that they do play nice togerher. But as I said I wonder if they just don’t watch them enough to no that she’s just putting up with what he’a doing. There isn’t really many other kids her age so she rarely is with anyone else to play with hence why I think she will wants to play with him and maybe he juar downs wave her be as I’ve seen him near her constantly from the minute I drop her off .. she’s very kind and sweet and her older brother has additional needs she’s very patient with him and they are complete opposites, my daughter is not ever mean to this boy ar nursery nor has she ever pushed him back, it just makes me so sad thinking someone’s mean to her all the time n she just want to be his friend .. however I question if I move her there could well be another child who isn’t very nice to her , but I will say however she loves helping with the younger babies at nursery. When she first started they only had 1 or 2 babies however they’ve taken on a lot more recently, and I wonder if the staff don’t watch the older ones enough anymore and don’t see what my daughter is dealing with when playing “ nicely “ with this little boy .. I hope
qjay am saying makes sense . Could anyone advise there thoughts .. I have arranged a meeting with nursery. As I do feel everything just gets brushed off. I should also state she even potty trained over 6 months and never wets herself at home, out and about, with grandparents anywhere but has started wetting herself at nursery to ..
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3.5 year old unsettled at nursery and boy upsets her. advice
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Roadyjoe22 · 11/03/2024 10:13
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