I'm 38 years old next month, I've been with my boyfriend for only 9 months and he's said that he doesn't really want children before but I finally asked him outright on Saturday and he says that with the way the world is going he doesn't want to have children. He's 46 so it's not that he's too young to want them. He's my longest relationship - because I can always not see a future with men from very early on. Maybe being with him was me fooling myself thinking that I'm ready to have children but it takes much more than being with a good person.
I wasn't sure if I would ever have children and maybe I never will but I think I want them in the next few years. I'd definitely want more than one since I was an only child.
We had a scare in December where I thought I was pregnant and I was scared but so happy at the thought of being a mum. He was adamant that I should have an abortion, which I didn't want at all. Turns out I wasn't pregnant but I thought at the time, it's just not the right time, maybe one day, he'll want children with me. But he doesn't.
Even if I did have children, I think he's too negative and I don't want them being brought up with this view that life sucks and with a victim mentality.
Just wanted to vent. I feel like I'll never be a mum. He can have children at 60 if he chooses to, but I can't. I'm 38 shock/horror
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dreamingpixie · 07/06/2022 10:18
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