I don't mean that it has to be like real life, per se. Of course it is different.. but if you are posting as a professional, you should take care when making personal statements such "working had no PND/PTSD and is jumping on the bandwagon" etc without the full facts.
There is a line. Thornykate and WonderingwhyIbother, I don't know how the other thread is going right now as I hid it, but your posts on this thread seem very professional to me (while being different to what you would say to a client in real life). However, there's a difference between arguing a difference of opinion and being accusatory when it comes to individual poster's posting about real life experiences, if that makes sense?
Many women - as should be clear from these threads - feel shaky and vulnerable about their birth experiences. They may very well be sensitive because of this fact and distrustful of the professionals who (rightly or wrongly) they associate with bad experiences. Given that many of these women will want further children, it's probably important that they do not have an unnecessarily adversarial experience with a midwife online. If the midwife is posting an opinion and they are affronted because of projection/being unable to separate their experience from reading what is being said, a midwife can't be reasonably expected to control that. However, sarcasm and dubious comments about someone's experience e.g. "jumping on the bandwagon" and "seems odd" in my case do seem to me to go beyond the bounds of robust public debate and have the potential for harming women who may be quite vulnerable in this context.
Including me!
In terms of reflecting on practice, of course it doesn't have to be in relation to care you have provided for a particular individual. The wiki definition is: ""paying critical attention to the practical values and theories which inform everyday actions, by examining practice reflectively and reflexively. This leads to developmental insight". It depends what you see as "practice", I guess. I would see practice as extending beyond individual client care to encompass anything which involves you thinking/acting/being a nurse/midwive/Allied Health Professional. You can reflect on your role within an organisation, your role in public health promotion following advising your mates at the pub (isn't this why some trusts have mandatory smoking cessation training for all?), on learning you have experienced formally or incidentally, on governmental policy impacting upon your practice etc. In the same way that if you do something weird like put porno pics of yourself up online it is seen to reflect upon your professionalism, sometimes you are thinking as a professional when you are in other contexts entirely. Sometimes I see individuals in my day to day life in my own community (e.g. on the bus, at the checkout register) that make me think about my job and where my clients may "end up" and what their needs as adults will be, and I reflect on this and it informs my work probably as much as experiences I have with my own clients.
I don't really have an axe to grind with midwives, per se. I think it's perfectly possible to represent a particular opinion online that may not chime with the experiences of potential service users as long as there is due care taken not to cause harm and the tone remains more or less professional (with maybe a bit more discussion and debate than you would expect in a clinical situation). Discussion and debate is not a problem, I don't think. Casual extrapolations from a few posts online, the use of perjorative or potentially controversial language or showing personal affront, no. That doesn't mean tolerating name calling - but it's entirely possible to say something like "I don't accept what you say and think your language is abusive" without reverting to sarcasm and rolling eye emoticons as some have done.
Again, who knows if the person I took issue with is even a midwife? None of us can. This is why, when dealing with a sensitive and emotive topic, it would be great to have official representation from the RCM on this matter to avoid some of the more ill-advised comments.