@philmassive
Hi Jane, my ds is 7 and will only eat an extremely limited selection of foods - sausages, pasta, olives, orange juice, steak, chicken, ketchup, bread, tuna, cheese and tomato pizza, and rubbish like crisps and sweets. He doesn't eat any fruit or vegetables in their proper form and he steadfastly refuses to try new things and even sometimes refuses familiar things if they look different or have a different texture.
I do try to buy the best versions of what he will eat like high meat content sausages and organic ketchup but I know he must be enormously lacking nutritionally and I think he must often be hungry and bored by such a limited diet. He won't eat versions of the foods he does like ie he eats pasta and tuna but won't have tuna and pasta bake. He hates 'wet' food.
Do you have any tips to encourage him to try new foods and would you recommend a vitamin supplement for him? Also from reading on here other people's experiences I do wonder if he has some sort of disorder. Can you explain how I could go about finding out if this is the case?
Thanks
I wouldn't panic and don't think that he has a disorder, as frustrating as it is, I think it's just one of those phases he will grow out of. It may well take going around to a friend's house where he's served tuna and pasta bake and nothing else is on offer, for him to click out of being so specific over what he will and won't eat. I know it may feel as if he's lacking in essential nutrients, but the test of this is really if he is thriving, feeling well, enjoying activities, etc, as the body will tend to grab more of an essential nutrient, rather bizarrely if you don't have that much of it-this can be the case with minerals like calcium, which if you don't have that much in the diet, their intestine absorbs a high proportion of what it's offered. so unless he is flagging, then I would assume that he at the moment is getting enough to keep him healthy. It's a tough line to tow but I have to say having treated lots of children who are fussy eaters, the more clear you can be about just offering that one food and not then offering something else if he doesn't eat it, the more likely he is to finally, albeit after some tantrums I'm sure and some pretty miserable meals, realise that he needs to tuck in.
incentive charts also work well, even at 7, so he can work his way towards something he'll love, if he tries a few mouthfuls etc. finally, I know it's not easy but try as much as you can to eat the same food as him and with him, as this can help build up his desire to please you.
I'm going to sneak in a mention about sugar if you don't mind here, as I see lots of you have written in worried about the amount of sugar you're giving your children. Sugar is a very divisive and judgmental issue as some of us much prefer not to give many sweet things, such as sweet drinks and biscuits, whereas other parents think we're being overly strict and risking a backlash. I so often see that overly sweet foods, such as refined sweets and drinks don't make children feel great, so my feeling is why would I want to give a child something that does this? Every parent has a right to choose what they give their child and yet other parents can be so overly critical if you don't go along with what they do. the only caution I would offer is being too strict when they're at friends parties or houses and everyone else is eating the sweet stuff you'd rather your child wouldn't eat-try to let them have some as they'll rebel if you don't and you also run the risk of them then starting to feel they need to hide the food from you, which is a path best avoided if you can. Limit as much as you can and just see it as a blip as you'll know they'll soon be back on the nourishing stuff at home.