Ahhhh so much to catch up on!!! Am so so sorry for lack of posts..
Emme had her new mic-key gastrostomy tube fitted, so we were in hospital for a day or 2 with that, and then she had a bit of a funny turn with it - just crazily high temperature, all floppy and being sick. Think it was half the pain relief and half the fact that we'd had to starve her for the general anaesthetic. I did try explaining the fact that she can barely go an hour or 2 without food, let alone about 10 hours by the time she finally went down. But anyway, she's still alive and fine now
ALL I literally cannot believe your DH snipped the wristband!
LVB Really sorry to hear you've been feeling down, but (sorry to x-post from ages ago) I have to agree with Cerub that it maybe it would be good to just relax and do absolutely nothing when the girls are at nursery. I know it seems like if they are going to nursery then you have to find something to do, but it really doesn't! Mine go to nursery and I purposely do nothing because I need a bloody break! Sometimes I will chuck some clothes on, a big coat, some big sunglasses, do the nursery run and then come home and get back into bed. Totally lazy and slobbish, but I need to be able to do nothing for a while to regain my sanity!
Although I may have raved about my DH on here before, I can 100% hear where you ladies are coming from. When it was just us and DD1 and DD2, we would always have 1 each and they were never too stressful because we only had 2. If DD2 acted up I would always deal with her as it was easier for everyone - DH just faff's around for ages trying to bribe her, trying to make her laugh and doing the whole 'oh look, a bird - lets go and find it', and then when she didn't respond to any of that DH would just flip out and not know what to do with her. Anyway, we were kind of like the 'perfect little family' with our 2 girls - when the triplets came along all that changed because there wasn't enough adults to go around. A lot changed when I was pregnant as was on bedrest towards the end and so he had to deal with everything. I think when the triplets came along, he thought everything would go back to 'normal' because I would be able to deal with them, but it doesn't work that way. DD1+2 were at that horrendous constant fighting and whinging stage, and then 3 tiny newborns?!?! After feeling really shitty for a while and having some horrible thoughts, I ended up just going to my old lovely GP who diagnosed PND - I was totally shocked as I never thought that I would be 'depressed' IYKWIM? I didn't know anyone else who'd had PND and, naively, thought there was a stereotype to a mother with PND. I just felt really embarrassed and kept thinking that I'm not the kind of person to be diagnosed with it. Ridiculous, I know. I confided everything in DH and said that I couldnt cope - I've never seen him feel so guilty and upset, he felt truly awful in himself for missing all the signs and feeling like he hadn't supported me. It wasn't that I felt he hadn't supported me, but he felt like I could cope with more than I could - and to be honest I should have told him that! Anyway, DH has his own business and was able to just go into work for an hour or 2 a day, when the triplets were asleep - he also took DD1+2 with him a lot too. Within a few weeks on antiDP's and having DH's help I felt soooo much better. He really was just so perfect and I couldn't fault him. I had another 'slip up' when the triplets were a bit older and I think he thought that he could 'relax' a bit, so i ended up doing most things again - we just had a huge huge row but managed to sort everything out; he realizes that it is 50:50 in our marriage, and for nearly 3 years now there hasn't been an issue. It took me going through some serious shit times to get there, but he is brilliant now and fully understands that I do need a break from them - when he gets home from work he takes over straight away because normally by then they are starting to act up. Don't get me wrong, he is in no way perfect, but so much better than he used to be - I think he finally realized that sometimes having 5 young children so close in age is fucking hard, and yes I will rarely admit it because I'm so stubborn and I don't want to be the stereotypical 'multiples' mum' who can't cope, and it doesn't mean I love them any less, but they are still hard.
And thats my story done.. Congratulations if you go to the end! I'm not really sure the point of me telling you all this (haha!) but it makes me feel a bit better as never really told too many people about how hard I did find it in the beginning. Sorry it was so long.
Loving the idea of Twins and Triplets Toddler Tantrums Two
TTTTT could stand for so much - Twins and Triplets turn Two and Three.
Oooh btw, my personality type was INFP... it is freakily true too!