I absolutely hate being married. My spouse is non UK national, it took so much effort and money to get them here. I had to change jobs, houses, move away from friends, all sorts. It seems like my monumental effort is never ending and the chilled out enjoyment has never arrived. Everything that happens relies on me doing everything, driving, decisions, effort. He has freedom to do whatever he wants ie change jobs, go home country for 6 weeks. I'm stuck in my job cos I'm his sponsor. He's fine with taking all that time off work and having a blast back at home, leaving us here. Financially I've covered everything for years and he's not made any effort to give back the 4k ish that his visa cost. I'm tired of mentally juggling his manipulation of situations when he chucks a colossal strop til he gets his own way. My 10 y/o has more of an emotional handle on things. When things are going great we get on, but his expectation of the role of wife is beyond anything I ever thought. Just needed to vent. I feel it may never end and my cultural expectations were more of a team effort, his thinking I'm an emotional/ financial support donkey. So pissed off and sick of the unfairness of it all. I realise I've made a huge mistake and now I just want our marriage to end, then I feel guilty because that will nullify his visa and earning potential. Thanks for reading and giving me the space to type.
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wtfamidoing2023 · 05/09/2023 09:01
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