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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

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My lovely friend is having a D&C tomorrow, I want to put a nice basket together for her..

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sherby · 16/07/2009 20:06

any ideas what to put in it

I thought maybe a magazine and some nice chocolate and then drew a blank lol

She has been waiting 3 weeks for the D&C and it is a much wanted baby so really want to cheer her up

Any ideas?

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sherby · 16/07/2009 20:07

Sorry should have said that she is having a miscarriage obviously, baby died at 9 wks but she still hasn't miscarried

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RibenaBerry · 16/07/2009 20:10

What kind of budget do you have - nice body things like nail polish or handcream maybe (obviously not bubblebath)?

If you think she would appreciate it, a bottle of wine?

Homemade vouchers for you to do little jobs for her if she can't face it - like doing her shopping or ironing - or for you to come round any time?

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sherby · 16/07/2009 20:12

Bottle of wine is a good idea!

Maybe a voucher to look after her little boy over the weekend

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Lizzylou · 16/07/2009 20:13

Could you take her out for an afternoon/night?

Voucher for beauty salon: manicure/pedicure?

Boots have lovely Soap and Glory sets.

You sound like a lovely friend, good for you.

ladyhelen2 · 16/07/2009 20:13

Aaah so sorry for your friend. What a lovely idea to do something for her. I've been there where she is and its horrible. If you can afford it, why not pay for her to have a massage or something? I would have really loved this ( I paid for one myself in the end). Recommend she has some reflexology too. Will help get her cycles back on track and tell her that she will be quite fertile after a d and c for the next few weeks. I had two and conceived within 4 weeks both times and have two lovely boys now as a result. Good luck to her and she's lucky to have such a thoughful mate.

VivClicquot · 17/07/2009 10:15

Hi there

I had an ERPC on Monday and thinking about it, here is what I would have liked in my basket, were you to give it to me to take into hospital:

Definitely a trashy magazine
Definitely some chocolate
Some nice smellies
Maybe a DVD or something like that?

(I had to stay in overnight, so I asked DP to bring in his laptop so I could watch a DVD or two to pass the time. However, if she doesn't have to stay in overnight, it will be good mindless viewing while she's resting up at home)

Also, if she has an iPod, maybe you could make up a good playlist for her?

Finally, the massage idea is a brilliant one. I want to book in for one myself (and hope DP might treat me to it!) so I'm sure that will go down brilliantly.

ladyhelen2 · 17/07/2009 14:02

Hi Viv. Sorry to hear about your EPRC. Hope you feel better soon. Its awful. This time last year I was also getting over one. Today I have a 10 week old baby gurgling happily in his bouncy chair as I type this. You'll get there. Go for it as soon as you feel up to a bit of BDing ( I hate that phrase!). It may pay off as in my experience of 2 EPRCs it has, and the same goes for friends who went through it too. Good luck and take care of yourself.Go get that massage!

VivClicquot · 17/07/2009 14:27

Thanks LadyHelen x

On the whole, I'm doing okay. We found out that our baby wasn't progressing properly on 2nd July, so I had a good 10 days or so to get my head around what would happen before the EPRC. This was my first pregnancy and it's been utterly heartbreaking, but the support from my DP and my family and friends has been nothing short of amazing, so in that respect, I'm very very lucky.

The pregnancy was unplanned - DP and I are getting married in November and had intended to start ttc then, but fate intervened! However, over the last two weeks we've been talking a lot about what happens next and while we are concentrating on the wedding, we've both admitted that we want to start trying again as soon as possible. If it happens before the wedding, then great. If not, then we'll still have an amazing time and we can start trying properly after then.... Fingers crossed anyway.

Mouette · 17/07/2009 15:04

Such a nice thought Sherby. How about cinema or theatre vouchers? After my mc I found that going out for a film and cocktails in a trendy bar cheered me up. xx

cupcakefairy · 17/07/2009 16:15

Just to say you are a lovely friend!

I guess the ERPC was today; did the basket go down well?

Just to add that the massage idea is v good too. My BF booked me and her in for facials/shoulder massage about a week after my mc and it was just so lovely to relax and to know she cared like that...

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