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PiratesKnittingTreasure · 20/08/2012 20:13
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StitchingMoss ·
08/10/2013 16:43
Step away from the play date!!!!! DS1 has nightmare child in his class, mum lovely, often makes noises about play dates, I just mumble something entirely non committal and change the subject. Think she's got the hint 
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The "trouble with boys" shit makes me go batshit and I studiously avoid mothers like that anyway 
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Gigondas ·
08/10/2013 15:31
I am excited too lag
No wise words apart from I would agree about keeping a distance from frenemy. Is it trickier to do that now you live in smallish place?
Luckily as I rarely do school run and find that big gig is in/out with different person each week I haven't had too much hassle (yet). Also new teacher seems stricter which seems to be working well for big gig.
Glad you are home stitching but don't overdo it.
Had lovely birthday weekend but must admit tired and arm sore after so resting up now .
LaGuerta ·
08/10/2013 10:01
Frenemy update:
A slightly different take on things from her DS after school on Friday, albeit positive. They had all played as one team. That my DS had been kind and had helped him by getting her boy's conkers off a third child (who is a horror) for him. Here's the corker: that he would like my DS to come for a play date.
I don't want to have to start play dates with them. 
Then Mum rounded off by saying, "It's just the trouble with boys." Or similar.
I remembered 20 mins ago that as it's a Tuesday it is a GBBO day. This made me feel disproportionately happy.
StitchingMoss ·
06/10/2013 18:09
Haha LG! We have these exact conversations! "There aren't girls' colours and boys' colours mummy, everyone can like any colour".
Totally relate to the consumerism - we avoid commercial telly completely in the Autumn 
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LaGuerta ·
06/10/2013 17:54
Similarly my DS does know there are other channels but is under the 'illusion' that we don't have them. We don't have Sky so it's only really Citv that I am dodging. They do get 15 mins of Peppa on Milkshake on a school morning IF they are both ready for school. Even that has a dramatic impact on their consumerist tendencies. "I want this toy", "That's a girl toy" (DS2), to which DS1 parrots, "There aren't girl and boy toys just toys that different people like." (Always a bit embarrassing when you hear them repeating what you have said.
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StitchingMoss ·
06/10/2013 16:18
Lol! Thanks for the warning
Is Boomerang a channel or programme?
DTisMYdoctor ·
06/10/2013 16:04
Do not ever let your children watch boomerang! Be warned, power rangers is on channel 5!
LaGuerta ·
06/10/2013 15:42
Glad you're home, and hope you're enjoying some peace at home. xx
My DS is a bit slow 
and has yet to work out how to change off cbeebies. It won't be long though. His friend has free range of the tv and only a couple of play dates there has resulted in DS1 and DS2 being fully conversant in Ben 10 etc
StitchingMoss ·
06/10/2013 10:52
at blaming dh!
I am home. Slightly freaked by sensory overload but eating choc and colouring with my boys courtesy of Gig .
Can't believe how warm it is!
DTisMYdoctor ·
06/10/2013 07:57
Aw, it'd have to be the frenemy wouldn't it? I wouldn't worry too much LaG. DS was among a group of boys who the teacher spoke to about behaviour, games not getting too rough etc after one of the boys mums spoke to the school. I only found out via one of the mums in the playground. Like you, I was worried about him being 'labelled'. It all seems to have settled down now.
However, I think I was more concerned about DS conforming to gender stereotypes - boisterous boys etc . Apparently at drama, his role play ideas seem to revolve around power rangers and killing baddies. I hate to think of the teachers thinking of him being a typical boy - especially when he can be really imaginative at home! I totally blame DH, who wrecked my subtle rules about appropriate kids channels.
Stitching - how are you today? Still hoping to get out today?
StitchingMoss ·
05/10/2013 13:05
Ah ok, my hackles always rise when I think parents are trying to sort out these things outside of school but that makes things a bit different.
Sound like your DS is being super sensible bless him.
Still in hospital but catheter and canula removed and I'm up and about. 95% sure I'll be released tomorrow .
LaGuerta ·
05/10/2013 12:53
Thanks Stitching. How are you today?
Luckily they are in different classes this year, however they are both part of the same group of friends who all play together at lunchtime. I don't think the school can do much to stop them playing together unless things were to deteriorate. The other 4/5 boys are nice kids, so it is not as though the whole group is problematic.
Yesterday was fine according to DS. When they were playing their game my DS stood back from the group and then went back to their 'den' area to watch 'pretend TV' which sounds like he took on board what we had said, but it also sounds like the game continues and he is missing out. 
I am on polite/chatty terms with frenemy, but I have cut back on seeing her away from school gates since I originally mentioned her on this thread. So, I think the text from her was an ok thing to do, although it is the first text from her in months.
LaGuerta ·
04/10/2013 15:00
Well, Stitching, it sounds like a step in the right direction, but I am very sorry that you still aren't better. Do take care of yourself. xx
May I change the subject, maybe it can distract you?
I have a 'situation' with my 'frenemy' who I have mentioned before. (Grotty DS1, grotty, snobby anti boy parental attitude, 3 DS's). She texted me yesterday to say that her boy (in same year but not same class as my DS1) has been coming home with scratches on him that he says are from my DS. Meanwhile, my DS came home last week with a first aid note to say he had a ice pack on his nose because "x smacked me on the nose on purpose". Then at a party last weekend I could see the two of them jostling in each other, and I had to speak to them a couple of times. So, I have spoken to my DS about what is going on. He was very upset and admitted that he 'might' have been scratching as part of a game they play where a group of them chase each other round and try to catch someone and drag them to jail. I do think my DS is a guilty party, but at the same time the other child is a fairly aggressive character, so it's certainly two way. I have spoken to my DS about games not getting violent, not retaliating etc. The other Mum had already spoken to their class teacher about it asking that the boys be talked to about behaving properly. As a result I have spoken to our class teacher this morning, who had no idea that anything was going on, including the first aid note about the ice pack , but he was fine and said he would have a word too. I have replied to the Mum, it's all amicable, but I am a bit about the situation. I don't want my DS to fall into a trap of being a naughty or rough. That's it really, just wanted to share.
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