I've been really struggling financially, we've been living on the poverty line for the last year. The food bank doesn't even give us enough to last more than a couple of days either.
My kids are 5, 4 and 23 months. My middle isn't old enough for school yet and can only get 15 hours childcare, my youngest child's birthday is after the cut off for childcare in April. Even in September when I can get 15 hours for the youngest and the middle is in school there's no availability in jobs that'll let me have evenings, weekends, and every holiday off. I'm not qualified to work in a school, and I've already checked dinner lady jobs (which pay pittance anyway), there's nothing available anywhere near me.
I don't have family to help with childcare, or friends, and the kids dad isn't in the picture. It just seems like the the entire system is rugged against anyone who has no support network. Even the financial team at the council just tell me to ask for financial help from family, as if everyone has family who can do that.
I'm slowly just getting into more debt with bills because I either pay them and we starve or I buy food.
I've started doing an access course so I can go to uni and qualify for a higher paid job. But that's still another 5 years down the line that I'll even be done with that course and an undergrad.
It's been so bad I've regularly had to not eat so there's enough left for the kids to eat still. And I've tried applying for all sorts of jobs, but there's just nothing. I'd already be using most of a paycheck on my youngest to go to nursery when I find I job, there's absolutely no way I could afford a out of term time childminder for my other two.
It's a horrible thing to say, but honestly sometimes I feel like my kids would stand a better chance if I killed myself and they went to my parents with the life insurance money they'd get from it. At least then they'd not be in poverty anymore.
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Lafoosa · 15/03/2024 11:36
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