As the title suggests really. At the age of 48 I have finally, consciously realised that I am bisexual. I’ve thought I was bicurious for years but have never acted on it, but recently I have accepted (if that’s the word) that there’s nothing curious about it, I’m 100% bi, attracted to and wanting to sleep with men and women.
The only person I have told IRL is my husband, who is surprisingly fine with it all and has said he will not stop me from sleeping with women, (he would draw the line at other men though, which is understandable).
My problem is that from all the reading I’ve done, being bi is very, very hard. I’ve accepted it’s not my fault I feel this way, and it is who I am. But I am obsessed with the idea of being with a woman, but also, frightened of the intimacy with someone I don’t want a relationship with, plus I do still enjoy hetero sex.
I also worry that I don’t want to break up my marriage to satisfy my sexual desires because that’s incredibly selfish (we have two school age kids) but also, I’m worried that society expects us to be one or the other, gay or straight and I don’t feel like either.
I don’t want to have to choose, but feel like I will never be happy or comfortable either way.
I’m also worried on the impact on the kids (I’m 99% sure my 14yo daughter is gay, we have kind of skirted around it and accepted it without her ever officially telling us) and she might see it as some kind of threat to her identity.
Are there any bi people out there who can convince me it will all be OK? Sorry for the rambling post but I’m still very new to this, and I am both excited and nervous about it all. To me it feels like it did when I was 17 and first discovered sex (with men) and had that optimism and glow, but with about a million other complications that come with age.
Any advice much appreciated, thanks.
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Am I ever going to be truly happy? I just realised I’m bi aged 48.
ChocBanana · 29/10/2023 00:14
SpraggleWaggle · 06/02/2024 17:11
Just typed all that before noticing it's a zombie thread, fml.
Wolfwoman6 · 04/03/2024 06:18
@ShapelyCoarseStanding yes, i find that as well.... Am serious about these feelings and would help alot to build friendship with other women going through same @ChocBanana... Am exactly in same boat as you, am a 48 yo😊😄... 💕.. It's so comforting to hear that am not only one. 😊💕
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