A few weeks ago my teen ds who is somewhere under the Trans umbrella although neither of us really seem to know exactly where decided that he no longer wanted any of his feminine wardrobe, swore blind that he had moved on and no longer wanted or needed any of it.
Roll on to the weekend just gone and he is regretting his decision.
It was quite a significant amount that he got rid of, some he had paid for, some donations from his sister but in the main I had paid for most of it.
I'm trying not to be cross or negative but right now it's going to be difficult to help him out with new clothes.
A quick Google and it seems that purging from time to time is fairly common.
Anyone else had to deal with this?
Do you rescue the clothes and hold on to them?
I'm not sure that's the right thing to do, it seems dismissive of his feelings but I can't afford for this to become a regular thing.
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Nowayhozay · 11/04/2022 23:22
Lampsout · 28/04/2022 18:21
I am in my mid fifties now and have been "crossdressing" (i no longer consider it crossdressing after all these years but simply my choice of clothes)
Anyway i digress, i was probably in my late thirties before i got out of the habit of purging i hate to think of the money i have wasted over the years.
For me the purging was at first the result of the fear of being discovered, obviously not relevant for your ds.
After that the triggers would be for instance a new relationship, so feeling that with this new woman by my side I couĺd leave all this behind me. Or sadly at times just sheer guilt and shame.
Teenage years are tough at the best of times but when you are a little different they can be extremely confusing im sure his mind is all over the place.
You know your ds best but I think in future he would actually appreciate it if you quitely rescued a few of his favourite items.
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