My mother has recently moved to a care home after a suicide attempt and subsequent month long stay in hospital. Her reason for wanting to die is that my sister has been bullying her about money. She left a note to tvat same effect. I have no idea if this is true in reality but i believe it is my mother’s reality. I think part of it is that my sister has been trying to put LPA in place for some tome which my mother has been angrily resisting. She is absolutely clear she does not want it. Sister has now had the lawyer out to the care home where my mum is kettled 🙄 and i have been sent a letter by the certificate provider as a person to inform.
Do i tell the certificate provider about the suicide attempt? And the reason for it? There is a social worker involved.
How do i check with my Mother that she’s OK about the LPA? I know that if I explain it she will not want it. She simply isn’t comfortable with the scope of the authority conferred.
why did my sister do this now. My mother is under a huge amount of stress.
What is the most important thing here? Can not having an LPA be in someone’s best interests? What do i do to protect my mum?
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LPA for elderly woman in care home
YesIwillyesIwillYes · 27/03/2024 21:47
JennyMule · 27/03/2024 23:15
OP, It's not entirely clear to me if you have been formally notified by the OPG of registration or simply written to by the Paralegal? If the latter that suggests the person dealing with it may have some concerns IMO as typically I wouldn't write to family about taking their relative's instructions. I would suggest that you do several things:
- If you are able, go to see your mum and talk her through what she wants. If she did donate an LPA but wants to change her mind she can revoke it in a very straightforward way without a solicitor. If the LPA hasn't been registered she can simply withdraw her instructions to her solicitors.
- Contact the firm of solicitors for whom the paralegal works and express your concerns that they may unwittingly be facilitating financial abuse of your mother (with reference to the bullying and consequent MH/suicide issues) and ask them if they can confirm that they've taken mum's instructions alone and not with sister present in the room or nearby.
- Make an adult safeguarding referral to the local social services authority where your mum is if not satisfied with the answers you receive (and tell solicitors ' Head of Private Client dept that you are doing so.
- If it's being registered already contact OPG and object to registration of the LPA - while the OPG only has overnight of registered LPAs I've had swift/effective results from emailing the OPG to advise that before registering an LPA for (name) of (address) etc they should enquire into the donor's capacity with regard to coercion or other concerns so might be worth emailing them anyway on a belt & braces basis.
JennyMule · 27/03/2024 23:15
OP, It's not entirely clear to me if you have been formally notified by the OPG of registration or simply written to by the Paralegal? If the latter that suggests the person dealing with it may have some concerns IMO as typically I wouldn't write to family about taking their relative's instructions. I would suggest that you do several things:
- If you are able, go to see your mum and talk her through what she wants. If she did donate an LPA but wants to change her mind she can revoke it in a very straightforward way without a solicitor. If the LPA hasn't been registered she can simply withdraw her instructions to her solicitors.
- Contact the firm of solicitors for whom the paralegal works and express your concerns that they may unwittingly be facilitating financial abuse of your mother (with reference to the bullying and consequent MH/suicide issues) and ask them if they can confirm that they've taken mum's instructions alone and not with sister present in the room or nearby.
- Make an adult safeguarding referral to the local social services authority where your mum is if not satisfied with the answers you receive (and tell solicitors ' Head of Private Client dept that you are doing so.
- If it's being registered already contact OPG and object to registration of the LPA - while the OPG only has overnight of registered LPAs I've had swift/effective results from emailing the OPG to advise that before registering an LPA for (name) of (address) etc they should enquire into the donor's capacity with regard to coercion or other concerns so might be worth emailing them anyway on a belt & braces basis.
namechangeaaargh · 27/03/2024 22:47
What do you mean you and your sister weren't considered as attorneys?
Your mum decides on the attorney(s). Did she decide on these three people? If it's joint rather than joint and several then having one on the other side of the world isn't going to work.
So has your sister instigated this, but your mum is being coerced by somebody else? Or she's been coerced by your sister into having 3 other people as attorneys. Sorry but I am having trouble following your posts.
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