social worker advice

[Helliga]

Long story short. After an allegation against my husband, almost definitely made by his ex wife, our children are now on a child protection plan. Because my family live a very long way away from us, all over the UK, I have decided not to burden them with the stress we are under as a family. However our allocated social worker has told me today that if I don't tell them, he will do so even against my wishes. My family have no input or involvement in the situation we find ourselves inand we see them so infrequently that it seems unnecessary to involve them. Is he allowed to get their contact info and speak to them behind my back, against my expressed wishes?

[Helliga]

I moved up north for university many years ago and stayed. My family all live all over the Midlands and southern England. It's just how the family have spread over the years as they have lived their lives. No conscious decision to isolate. Also due to family history we are just not particularly close emotionally.

I am not totally adamant its all allegation from ex wife. However she has previous for making this type of allegation. She did it when they separated to try and prevent him seeing the children he had with her. It was given to carcass and other relevant parties at the time and they threw it out. It just seems a little suspicious to me. And as I stated her name is all over it on the reports and stuff as the information giver.

Apparently any allegation of this type would result in a CPP as he would be classed as high risk until investigations are complete.

I am not some back water idiot who is putting my husband before the welfare of my children. I think the main issue in the post has been missed. I am talking about the professionalism of the person supposed to be supporting my children. Missed deadlines, critical information not being supplied, reports not given, not showing up when he was supposed to, not inviting the relevant people to conference ie school do it was cancelled by the IRO, not following through with an despite us being 6 weeks in (whole process started over the summer - it took 4 mths before we even got to child protection), threatening me in my own home. How is this acceptable? If I behaved like that to a 'customer' in my manager 's job I would be disciplined or fired!

[Helliga]

Not following through with the CP plan*

[Me2017]

You could move abroad perhaps?
These situations are a nightmare.
Even the suggestion from SW that you need "fa ily support" would make me want to drive a stake through their hearts. Thank God I've never had to deal with them. We are not all the same kind of people and many competent people don't need or want family support.

How do they know you have any family and how would they track them down anyway?

[OhTheRoses]

Whilst I understand something of what LadyPenelope says I also have significant concerns about social workers and "the system" having dealt with CAMHS who wrote a letter incorporating false information due to incompetence and negligence that was put on my dd's permanent medical record.

You need specialist independent legal advice. It will be expensive, probably £5k + but these are your children - if your family can't help emotionally, can they help financially. Second mortgage, second job, etc.

[Owllady]

You can make a stage 1 complaint through your local authority website :) they will then be forced to look at procedure etc