Currently living with DH, we've been really on/off since last year and finally had enough. Problem is I'm not sure how to extricate myself.
Here's the situation. We are both disabled and on benefits, claim is in his name and goes to his bank account (which I have no access to - I know I know.. :(), so I only have money when he gives it to me - he's mostly good but it's a source of many arguments. I have no savings, never anything left over at the end of the month.
We live in a council flat in a town midway between his parents and mine. I don't want to stay here, I want to move to somewhere where I have a support network.
So, I need to work out how to move out, how to separate finances and how to get a divorce. Most of this boils down to money and the awful benefits system.
I've been told I can't claim separately to him while living with him. But I don't want to move out and then wait however long it takes for them to pay me. I've got a little one to think about, and while I can (and have) survived on bread and water before I'm not doing it to him.
So I can't claim before I move out, and I daren't move out until I know I can afford food and bills.
I'm also worried about how I'm going to move somewhere, I have no money for a deposit and/or moving costs. I might be able to get some help from my father, but he's self employed and struggling himself.
I've also been told that I'm unlikely to be able to get a council house while we are still married, and we can't afford a divorce.
There's no DV (thank god) so know that there's not so much help for my situation. Rightly, but not helpful to me.
Help?!
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MurderOfGoths · 19/07/2013 12:58
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