Hello,
Just wondering about experiences of having 3 kids over the age of 40... I had my first at 40, second at 41 (nearly 42) and would like to have a third but people seem to think I'm mad. Everything was straightforward the first time around but I was more run down in the second pregnancy with spd and back pain meaning I wound up on crutches. The second birth was also traumatic but still I would go again. Can't shake the feeling that I'm not finished. Am I mad?
Would love to hear your experiences.
Thank you
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puffysthename · 11/03/2024 23:02
puffysthename · 11/03/2024 23:02
Hello,
Just wondering about experiences of having 3 kids over the age of 40... I had my first at 40, second at 41 (nearly 42) and would like to have a third but people seem to think I'm mad. Everything was straightforward the first time around but I was more run down in the second pregnancy with spd and back pain meaning I wound up on crutches. The second birth was also traumatic but still I would go again. Can't shake the feeling that I'm not finished. Am I mad?
Would love to hear your experiences.
Thank you
shoppingshamed · 12/03/2024 08:07
I guess it must depend on your circle, I can't imagine anyone I know thinking it was unusual, loads of women have babies in their 40s. Why does it matter what anyone else thinks, would you really not have the number of children you want because of other people think?
I'm sure you know that it's impossible to predict how it might turn out, not an easy desicion but make it for your own reasosns
Treesnbirds · 11/03/2024 23:29
I just listened to a book on audible called The Well Lived Life written by a doctor who is 103. There was a chapter in that saying plenty of people have babies well into their 40's or even 50's (!) and always have,
https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B0BKH1FZ36?sourcecode=ASSORAP0511160006&shareelocation=libraryoverflow
My mum had my sister at 43, I have a friend who had her second at 46, I think you're in with a good chance, good luck 😍💖
Treesnbirds · 11/03/2024 23:31
P.s. I had my 4th at 42 and she was a complete surprise, so I definitely think fertility is a complicated thing.
Ididntmeantoyou · 12/03/2024 08:32
Nearly. I had mine at 37, 39 and 45. Number 3 took 3 years to conceive but in the end it worked. My recovery after birth number 3 has been by far the quickest - I really hit the ground running - but it has needed to be with the other two still quite young. I’ve had 2 consultants and 2 midwives telling me there is no medical reason not to go for a fourth (not that I’m intending to, but it was very nice to hear). And so far, the other two children love having a baby. So, go for it, I say!
crumblingschools · 12/03/2024 08:56
Think of the teenage years, they are expensive and possible university costs. Will you be able to fund them?
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