A difficult day

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So my daughter is literally a mummy’s girl well she switches when she wants but generally she’s a mummy’s girl. Hugs and kisses me all day won’t sleep with anyone but me. Seeks comfort in me

But today she wasn’t feeling well. She was fine all morning and all of a sudden she had a tantrum and my husband insisted on dealing with it and after that my daughter refused to come near me. Literally to the point she cried when she seen me. Honestly I’ve never been so devastated. She was even calling my mil mummy even though when y ask her who mummy is she points to me. She’s 22 months.

I’ve literally.l cried the whole day. My husband is barely even at home. I’m the main caregiver.

Sounds like your DH was trying to help, honestly she's 22months she will get over it - and quickly. Try not to worry.

They are so flippant at this age, honestly although you might feel hurt she's a baby she isn't doing it intentionally. Like you said she's a bit unwell and she had a tantrum - they can be so unreasonable and often take it out on those closest to them.

My kids can be so mean to be sometimes but they're 3 + 6. I know they don't mean it so (as best as I can) I shove those feelings aside and forgive them pretty quickly otherwise I'd be forever put out!

Also you're the main caregiver. She will unfortunately take you for granted and when she's having a tantrum you'll probably be the first to know about it even if you're giving you're all and being a brilliant parent.

She's cross and unwell. She needs to express herself and you ARE the safe space. Don't feel rejected, this is quite the opposite. Your unconditional love is so totally assumed that she can show you get upset

It won't last. In a day or two when she I better she will be back to normal. Try not to let it bother you.

DH is generally my eldest's favourite because he does the fun stuff. It upsets me sometimes. I get a guilty pleasure out of the fact that she wants me when she's ill because it reminds me that I'm still very important to her even if I never get to be the one to take her to swimming or other exciting activities.