Mil inadvertently ruins lives

[newmomaboutthreads]

What are people's thoughts here. I married a man with 6 sisters. He's the youngest and now middle aged, all his sisters are older and all single, none in relationships or married or have children. His mother is overbearing and crosses boundaries regularly. As an outsider I can see that she controls everyone. My husband just doesn't see it but to me it explains why all her daughters are stuck single. She is also obsessed with boys and sons. We don't address it as I'm so non confrontational and I feel sad for the entire situation but at the same time want to keep my very young family away from her ways.

[Lucybee0]

It’s normal to him so he’s not going to see the red flags, she sounds awful

[Lemsipper]

the most frustrating thing to me about a toxic MIL is when your husband can’t see it and always says “she doesn’t mean it like that” or “why are you always being negative about her”

this was my husband and it was killing me slowly. My solution? I started posting the things she said or did on mumsnets and then read him the non biased replies. Thankfully one post got 700+ replies of everyone agreeing with me and from this he finally woke up. Now we’re both no contact and I couldn’t be happier 😊

perhaps do the same if you are near the end of your tether?

yes I would keep your young family away from her if there have been incidents? Has she said or done anything in particular?

[BrimfulOfMash]

So.., you don’t address it, your DH won’t address it.

How are you going to ensure that your family remain unscathed ?

You don’t need to be ‘confrontational’ to address things or hold your boundaries.

Forget the sisters, they are adults and can seek help, endure, or comply as they wish.

What specific situations do you need to deal with in order to keep things healthy and happy for your own kids?

[Tonia16]

There could be many reasons why her daughters are single.
What has she said or done to you or your family that makes you think she wants to control you?

[Kaybee93]

My MIL is a passive aggressive controller too. 🙌🏼❤️ May the force be with you ❤️🙌🏼 I’d give you advice but I too am not good with conflicts.

[marshmallowfinder]

I don't like the assumption that being single means you're 'stuck' or lesser somehow, or to be pitied, or a problem. It is quite possible these women have chosen to live like this. Bloody intelligent of them, I say.