Big age gap but in the current world of technology

[N400]

I have ds10 and ds6. Unexpectedly fell pregnant (failed contraception) this year but it resulted in a missed miscarriage at the 12 week scan.

I have thought so much since about a 3rd. So much tells me NO!! I am now 34, it gets harder as we get older, we will be going back to baby stage (which I actually don't mind at all!). My main concern is it disrupting the dynamic for the worse. My 2 girls get in soooo well. If I had another , one would be 11 and one would be 7.5 and every single thing I read about that age gap is awful. Lots say that the older ones dote on the younger one etc and that's fine but my concern is when possible DS3 would be say 7... The others would be 14/18 and off to uni (maybe?). When ds3 are 11 both of the others will be off. Every one said this is awful both the parent and child as a kind of only child and the siblings don't have anything to do with eachother . My question is .... Is there anyone in this situation at the moment?? A lot of the things I've read were people talking about many years ago. I'm wondering if it's different now with mobile phones? Would the uni siblings stay in touch and text younger etc and has this helped anyone's dynamic or made no difference. Thank you x

[kiabella]

I know this is a late reply but just wanted to offer my perspective. I am the 4th child of 5 kids, my 3 older siblings were 9-13 when I was born. Some of my happiest memories were when we all lived together under one roof and as I grew up it was just me and my little brother but we loved seeing our older siblings and how noisy and lively the house became when they all visited. While I didn't see them every day, when I did see them they would take me to places like Alton towers or shopping, used to take me out in town drinking when I was 17 and always looked after me (bit naughty but I felt so much safer doing it with them than my friends), I became a auntie when I was 14 so I spent a lot of time with their children. They were like bonus aunties and uncles really, and I'm closer to them now at 32 than I am with my younger brother who I was with all the time as he is 18 months younger than me. I'm now pregnant with a suprise #3 and my children will be 9 and 6 when this one arrives. I think if I hadn't grown up with older siblings I would also be worried about the age gap but it dosent always have to be that way. Good luck!