Hi,
I'm 40. Just had our planned third baby, other kids are 7 and 5.
I can't shake the horrible feeling that this has been a mistake. I keep thinking of all the things we won't be able to do, either because we are a 'larger' family or because we have a little one in tow. I worry about my career. I worry about my attention and relationship with the older two. I worry about everyone else moving into a new phase now that their youngest are in school and we are starting it all again. I feel so old now (strangely didn't during pregnancy) and feel like I'll always feel like an outlier - the old mum who is stuck with the young child when everyone else my age has moved on.
I knew all this before getting pregnant, but worried then about the regret if we didn't try for a third. I also thought 'you never regret a child' and when I'm 60, 40 would seem so young. I really love my baby, but have moments of real panic now that this was the wrong thing to do. I'm not feeling as I expected I would.
I guess I'm looking for some.reasurrance that I haven't messed up. That I will feel better. What can I do to get to a place of happy acceptance? Is this normal? Has anyone else felt like this or been ina similar situation. How do I get through these moments of feeling I've done something stupid?
Please be kind. I feel.awful to feel this way and am berating myself harder than anyone else can. I didn't think I would feel like this and am worried about never feeling better.
Thanks in advance xx
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freezerdinners · 28/11/2020 07:04
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