Hi,
i had a tfmr at 18 weeks on 16th June. Physically I’ve completely recovered but i have been off from work since 6th June , basically when we found out we were told baby was not compatible with life. This was an IVF baby and i was under the clinic for a year and my workplace knew this. Anyway i go back to work tomorrow. Im a secondary school teacher and we break up next Wednesday anyway. I fly out the following day as well for a much needed holiday. Anyway i dont even know why im posting this but how did anyone else feel when they returned? I didnt tell anyone really and only my boss and hr and line manager know. But I know i looked quite big when i left only to now return looking ‘not pregnant’. I dont want anyones sympathies and im also annoyed now il be back to treatment/ transfer in September when really I would have been gearing up for maternity. I hope my workplace wont be difficult with me resuming treatment again… then again i never missed days except just for retrieval and transfer but we have frozen embryos so itl just be a couple scans and transfer day. Its not as fresh for me now and i know there was no way baby would have lived im just gutted it took so much time away from me and robbed me of my enjoyment if i do get pregnant again. I hope everyone tomorrow just gets on with their busy day ( a lot of staff are leaving) . Ive been keeping myself busy and thats really helped plus the next steps are in play and i have my consultation review in 3 weeks when i return from holiday ready to prep for next transfer! I can sit and cry all say if i wanted its exhausting but it wont change anything and time is passing by so quick so i need to just move foward with it. These things happen and we have to pick ourselves up and carry on. I have to stay positive!
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Returning to work after tfmr
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Lemoncake5 · 11/07/2022 08:57
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