And as for the "apology".
Well, I shouldn't have, but she is annoying, right guys?
Giving support and succour to every domestic abuser out there who knows he shouldn't have punched his wife, but let's face it, she is annoying, right?
Hammering home the message to women who live with violent men, that it's their fault because they can be annoying.
This is the context. This is why we're angry. Men simply don't face this context and it's just another way of denying inequality, to pretend that all contexts are the same and women and men have the same experience of violence. We simply don't but it's convenient to everyone who has a vested interest in being in denial about inequality, to pretend we do.