Op,
The problem with asking about uni fees on a forum like mumsnet is that there are such a wide range of people, with different finances, different lifestyles and very different expectations for their DCs futures.
As Need points out, if you have brought kids up in London, paid school fees etc, and expect the kids to return to London, then paying uni fees too is not out of the ordinary.
Similar with Xenia, who very much expects her DC to return to London and have corporate jobs, and who, unlike most others, can also afford to buy her DC houses.
Then you get people who earn enough to pay towards the maintenance loan, but can’t afford to, so paying fees is a pipe dream.
Many many uni students don’t originate from nor will end up in London. My DS is one. We are NW based, and whilst he could end up anywhere in UK in the career he would like to pursue, it won’t be London. He hates the place.
He could have afforded to pay his own fees from an almost 6 figure inheritance he got at 18, but we suggested that he save that for a house deposit.
We could also have paid fees, but, to keep things fair, as his sister is not sure if she will go, we decided to use the money to top up their inheritances. Depending on where both end up, they could have a 50% house deposit, probably more in the north. DS could of course use some of his deposit money to pay down his loan, esp given that loan interest is likely to stay higher than mortgage interest.
Op, you need to look at your own and your DS circumstances, to decide what to do. What will he study, where could he end up, what sort of career will he pursue - high flying corporate, low paid vocational, or something in between?
Do you agree with PlanDeRaccordement that renting all your life is OK, or do you want them to be home owners as soon as possible? We are very much the latter, as we had houses at a young age and, as we approach retirement, would hate to have the uncertainty of being in rented property.
Many graduates will never earn a high salary, especially those in the health professions, but will still have a worthwhile career. In that case, having a ready deposit makes more sense than being loan free.
Can you afford to help with fees and the house deposit?
Does he have siblings who you would want to treat the same?
Do you have sufficient to have an enjoyable retirement if you help all children in same way?
Would downsizing to help them on the housing ladder be an option, as Need is planning?