I am worried about my dd. She's finding Year 13 very tough after a very good Year 12. About a year ago, she said she wasn't sure about going to university and might look at apprenticeships instead. However she's not sure what she wants to do career-wise and a few months later she decided that university application was very much on the cards again.
Her A Levels are English Lit, Sociology and Spanish and she wants do to a Joint Honours degree in English + either Philosophy or Linguistics (or some combination of the three).
Since starting Year 13 she's been under an enormous amount of pressure. She says the work isn't happening for her, she sits down to do a piece of work and can't do it (or thinks she can't do it). She's finding writing the Personal Statement difficult, apparently her first draft wasn't very good and she has to re-write it (very common I'm sure).
She's away at boarding school so there is only so much support I can give her. We had a tearful call home last night, she's very down, can't write the Personal Statement, can't do her work, unsure if she wants to go to Uni. She is well supported at school both with academic staff and boarding staff. However she does tend to bottle things up, she's very much a closed book.
I have advised her, and I don't know if this is the right advice or not, to proceed with uni application for now. If she decides next year not to go, she can defer or pull out all together. I think once she's got the application in, it will take some weight off her mind.
I'm not the sort of parent who would encourage university whether it's right or not, I actually think alternatives to university can be extremely beneficial. We did discuss briefly if she didn't go, what would she do? Take a year off? But do what?
I hate seeing her so upset and just want what's best for her. Any advice please?
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Year 13 dd struggling with work and unsure about university
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twosoups1972 · 09/11/2018 13:29
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